The social value building objective in this entry, is to encourage you to turn to your internal resources which are commonly met by negligence. In any scenario, whether you’re on the college campus, office grounds, or any social environment, the guy who radiates the most social value generally acquires the most attention, admiration, and is perceived higher up the community’s totem pole. This is essentially the art of how to attract more girls without saying a word, and by truly being yourself.

If you were to pick something up from the previous two posts on how to get more girls with social value, it’s about creating the opportunities for yourself, simply by stepping up to the plate and talk, while the other is maintaining a fun vibe around women.

Well, here’s Part 3 to this installment.

1. Keep a Non judgmental attitude. Have you ever noticed that the people who’s got their life together, or are higher up the social ladder, tends to have a more positive attitude towards people? I’m talking about the millionaires, self-made men, celebrities. They’re not out to proof their wort, nor do they have motives on making people feel lesser than they should be. They’ve come to accept people for the way they are without having to judge them.

2. People with high social value all behave in a similar way. They move with a strong sense of relaxation, yet they know when to be bold. This is what keeps them grounded. They set the boundaries on how they should be treated, and they do not panic about how people are to judge them.

When you’re relaxed and bold, you that perfect note that resonates “composure”. Remember: Not speaking up and remaining timid will get you no where. You won’t even attract the shy girls.

3. Strong nonverbal sexual cues. What are the main elements of a strong nonverbal sexual cue? A solid, strong voice. One of the quickest ways to enhance your vocal quality is to “respect your voice”. Most people don’t practice this. Rather, they prefer not to be heard. If you respect like your voice as if it has a net worth of 10 million dollars, you’ll notice yourself speaking louder, with more energy and clarity.

Another important facet is your body language. Again, stay composed. When talking to a girl, consistently maintain that eye contact, and don’t flinch around like you’ve got attention deficit disorder. Keep your posture upright and feel at peace from within. Relax. Keep your body facing hers at all times to genuinely show that you’re paying attention to her. You’d be surprised how most guys are aware of this principle, but fall short during execution. It’s much easier to commit to memory, than to commit it to action.

Breathe calm and let your body and smile exude warm heat. All mature humans of social value and class behave similarly. By adopting the right body language, your mental state also fine tunes itself.

Well, I hope you guys enjoyed this entry. More cutting edge ways on how to attract women in waves coming soon.

You’re now reading: How To Keep Her Interested & Get More Girls: The Magic of Challenge

One of the most timeless ways on how to get more girls, and to “keep” one hooked on to you like gold diggers to Benjamin Franklins, is to actually be a constant challenge to her. To make yourself “less” accessible and harder to get gives you a more valuable appeal.

Picture this hypothetical scenario for a moment.

You’re visiting 2 dealership stores to buy a new Mercedes car with the price tag of $250,000. In dealership A, you can sense that the sales dude desperately needs to commission in on this sale. He’s got a servile and pleasing attitude; he really wants you to like him and buy the car through him. Wost, he won’t get out of your face and stands at your peripheral impatiently for you to make a decision. Every time you stall for time and stare hesitatingly at the price tag, he tries to read your thoughts and lowers the price for you – just so you buy, and he gets to pocket some dough.

In dealership B, the salesperson there seems more relaxed, and speaks in a calm and cool demeanor. He tells you the price tag of $250,000, and confidently states that you’re getting way more than you paid for. He tells you the price is non-negotiable.

So to recap: You’re in the market for a new Mercedes. You visit 2 separate car dealerships. The first sales person comes at you from a “I want something from you” position. Then you visit the second dealership where the sales person appears presents himself elegantly and talks in a controlled manner. He makes you an offer, and whether you accept his offer or not, he’s cool with it. He tells you “This is one unprecedented car. You get what you pay for. It’s up to you to take it or leave it, the decision is all yours. I’m sure you know what’s best for you.”

Now, imagine that you can have both of these cars for free. Who would you take it from? Dealership A or B? I’m sure it’s B. Why? Because the salesman has shaped your perception towards the Mercedes in that dealership to be more valuable, harder to obtain, therefore making it much more rewarding to have.

This is the allure and magic of the challenge factor. This is how average looking guys can get a piece of that landslide advantage over a hot looking stud with no challenge in his game.

The salesman in Dealership A diluted the value of the car by offering the discount. In the dating world, this si equivalent to playing nice, easy to get, and “making yourself available.” What usually ensues is your ass being taken for granted.

The more available you are, the lower in value a woman evaluates you. Challenges sells, gets you pussy, so “Be” it. Become a challenge. Not only will you keep a woman interested and get more girls as you value yourself more, they will also be more willing to fight tooth and nail for your time. Why? because your presence commands market and social value. This is like the general manager of a company vying for a Vice presidential seat.

You’ll also get more girls on autopilot as you project this vibe of novelty and rarity. Women will always want what they can’t have. If they have to “work” to get you, they will attribute you the the likes of luxury. Integrate this fine element into the natural baseline of your character’s core. It has to be woven in the DNA of “you”, not a technique.

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About: How to get more girls, but building your social value on demand (Part 2).

I know, I know. It’s been a while since I last posted after crossing over to 2012! We’re already halfway into the month, and I swear it feels like I was partying til 8 am after the new year’s countdown last night. But I digress.

What I’m going to share with you today, is a timeless tip that should help enhance your personal social value on demand, when you’re in public.

Talk to the girl! Yes, when you’re seen talking to a girl, it projects immediate value instantly. If you know how to talk to women, you must be social at the very least. Not only that, you must be someone that’s friendly, non threatening, non repulsive and interesting to some degree. Yes, that’s how the other girls will register you in their minds.

This makes them feel more secure when you approach them later. Since you’ve already been spotted talking to another girl, your prospect will assume that it’s okay to talk to you.

In fact, when you’re in a setting where you’re amongst the few rare dudes who are “seen” chatting up with the ladies, it instantly amplifies your worth to the by-standing ladies.

So go on, grab your balls, and go talk to the girl you want. Nothing else matters nor will any rewarding scenarios (getting a number, kiss close, or getting laid) take place if you don’t make the initial move to open up a conversation.

Ignore all the social pressure you may be feeling at that time. Tell yourself, it doesn’t exist. Or, an alternative is to accept the social pressure or nervousness, but tell yourself that this state will only last for a minute.

One of my secret inner game mind trick on how to approach a girl is to assume that attraction is there already. Imagine a tangible energy between the two of your bodies, charging higher in frequency as you both inch closer. Visualize and feel the spark of the electric current.

Seriously. Simply by approaching a girl in public indirectly communicates that you must have a high social value as you have dare to talk to strangers.

You don’t want to kick yourself the morning after for not ever talking to the girl you’re interested in.

One additional point I’d like to include is this: Do not try to impress the girl you’re talking to, nor should you try to make yourself look impressive in front of those around you. Instead, you should be the one that needs to be impressed.

After a good few minutes getting to know each other, enforce the power of absence. I usually talk to a girl 10-20 minutes tops before excusing myself to rejoin my friends. Too much talk and exposure of yourself on the first visit will diminish your value when you return.

Withdraw yourself a bit earlier, and she’ll want more of you when you’ve demonstrated high value and strong connection with her during your first approach.

Need more assistance on how to talk to girls? Check out the Verbal Playboy Blueprint.

There’s a very simple yet underestimated way on how to be attractive to women – and that’s to get yourself the right dose of oxygen intake. Yes, sometimes, you just have to focus on the foundations of your game.

No matter where you are – even when you’re not on a date with women – be aware of your breathing pattern.

When you are aware of your breathing habits or patterns, you’ll actually recognize your mental and emotional state improve; and when your mental and emotional state is positive, it permeates into the quality of your interactions.

Most people aren’t aware that they’re not breathing incorrectly. The majority breathe too shallow, and are unconsciously depriving themselves of the necessary daily oxygen. Short breaths are also cause you to feel uneasy and stressful.

Wouldn’t it be better to get rid of all that nasty coiled up tension? So let’s begin with some quick and easy methods.

Below are several essential breathing practices you must know on how to be more attractive to women.

1. Focus your attention on every breath you take. Visualize the air entering your nose and refreshing your lungs. Gradually, slow down your pace and take in deeper and more relaxed breaths.

2. Always inhale from your diaphragm. When inhaling, your ribcage should be expanding sideways. It should feel like they’re trying to escape from your body. Your upper chest should also be stretching outwards. You should see your naval get sucked in, and expand when you exhale.

Then, exhale gently. Never be in a rush to exhale. Never.

3. While stretching your arms away from you, interlace your fingers together, and make sure the palms are facing away from you. Now, start to slowly inhale peacefully. Then, bring your outstretched arms upwards above your head. Keep them straight and push upwards towards the sky.

While doing all this, keep on filling up your lungs until you reach full capacity. Afterwards, hold onto your breath for 5-10 seconds and release. This will help you kill all your body tension.

Your body muscles should feel more relaxed. You should feel relived. This is the state you want to be in when talking to women.

Practice the above three steps multiple times until you can do it fluidly and automatically without having to remind yourself. Most people will find it a bit challenging breaking out of old breathing patterns, but with practice and persistence, you will break it.

Lastly, I’d also like to recommend that you should get yourself involved in sports – if not already. Get on a treadmill, play basketball at your local park, find a female jogging partner to run with.

I personally play soccer – as it aids in making you a more competitive person, disciplines you to stay focused more focused, and helps improve your body coordination. This indirectly helps sharpen your body language.

Not to mention, exercising loads your body up with endorphins. It’s fireworks for your brain, fine sculpting for your physique. Your hormones become more balanced, and your testosterone level goes up. You’ll eventually become a more confident and well-rounded person.

The ultimate goal is to keep your body in shape. Get your heart pumping for at least 45 minutes daily, and 4 times a week.

To know how to be more attractive to women really comes down to these kinds of daily commitments. Stop looking for shortcuts.

So there you have it: One of the most effective ways to be more attractive to women is to breathe correctly.

To breathe correctly is to nurture your brain, body, and game.

Shaping up your social value is one of the most surefire ways on how to get girls to like you. Remember high school where the team athletes, artsy musicians, preppy rich kids, or popular dudes were the most desirable? They had this air of cool and positive social value.

Worry not if you had zilch noteworthy buzz back then, as we all age, graduate from college (if you did go), and our social value takes on new constructs and possibilities outside our academic circles.

Your social value is an indicator which other people use to determine whether or not they should get to know you.
When a man exudes an abundance of internal and tangible worth, he has social value. It comes from his presence, character, core personal values and qualities.

It’s how well received he is by people. It’s the “good vibe” that those around him feel in reaction to him.

No, you don’t need to be a Hollywood celebrity or a local big shot. You don’t have to be Warren Buffet rich – although the two former statuses can’t hurt to have.

Your social value can be generated when you focus on improving yourself.

How you manage your attitudinal, mental, and physical behavior during an interaction, and how you coexist in the public sphere will affect your perceived value.

To recap, your social value partly consists of your interpersonal skill and mindset. You have to be outgoing, empathetic, and good with people. You have to like people. Your attitude towards the world and strangers has to be genuinely positive. The more experience you have, the higher your social intuition.

Most people are trapped with this inner struggle hindering them from progressing higher up the social value ladder. If you have a tendency to be shy in public, you can’t expose your worth as you aren’t fully expressing yourself. You must be comfortable with self expression.

Another timeless way to rapidly build your social value, and how to get girls to like you more, is when you give value to your shared reality.

Can you make the most mundane moments positive? Can you lend a helpful hand when unsolicited for? Can you brighten up someone’s day without expecting anything in return?

The experiences that people associate and remember you with, is the value they will have attached to you.

In Part 2, we’ll go into greater depths on how to build your social value internally, from ground up if you must.

Remember, with more social value, women will no longer be evasive and a challenge. Be the one who does the “screening,” instead of seeking for approval, as you possess the social value to fight for.

They will throw themselves at you like moths to warm incandescent light.

Ok. So I don’t usually write about how to please a girl wildly when it comes to bedtime play. Why? Because there are plenty of resources dedicated to that area available online. Well, it can’t hurt to offer some of my own personal tips on how to get a girl wet, and make her go freak-wild for you.

Her are 3 golden tease-her-in-the-sheets tips you can use to your advantage to make it rain down south.

1. Steady Kisses

Whenever you start kissing her, do so with no tongue. Save it for later when you’re deep into foreplay. Tease her with light and quick kisses first, then progress naturally into longer and more sensual ones. You want to vary the intensity. Kiss her intensely, then withdraw. Then soften up the kiss, and raise the pressure. Don’t let her catch you ever with a pattern.

The magical effect of this is denying her the pleasure until she aches for it. Make her sizzle like a sirloin steak on a grill. The act of push and pull you’re executing mirrors the nature of intercourse itself (insert, withdraw).

2. Sniff and Bite

What you can do while kissing her, is to also sniff and bite. This is actually an animal mating ritual since prehistoric times, and a powerful way on how to make her wet gradually. Use all your senses during times of physical intimacy. Smell her neck, hair, body. When you exhale, do so gently so she can feel that tingle in the release.

Tell her in a whisper-like voice that you like how she smells; ok so perhaps some words can help.

Then cast a gentle bite or lick on an erogenous zone (neck, lips, back of ears). This will always send shocks of pleasure through their neurological system.

3. Embrace Everything

Most guys neglect the entire body. They go straight for the breast, ass-grabbing, and then penetrate. Unless you’re both in it for a quickie, avoid the rush if this is your first time with her. Run your hands and explore her entire body.

Don’t touch nipples, or V area. While your hand unabashedly explores her delicate body, give her massages along the way. Firm squeeze and grabs suggest masculinity which turns them on like a switch.

While massaging, remember to multitask and blaze a trail of tactical kisses from her neck to her inner thighs. Grab her feet and give a 2-3 seconds foot massage as you go in lower. When you reach the bottom, return back up to caressing and drumming her back.

Always have both hands working, and embrace the full body. You should also use your body (chest, legs) as an instrument also to create movement when both of you are sharing skin contact.

After a good 10-15 minutes of foreplay, you may want to escalate into French kissing, grabbing he condom, and shifting gears to bang the lights and every breath out of her. She will orgasm all over your shaft and look forward to a second run.

If you enjoyed my personal tips on how to make a girl wet without words, make sure you e-mail me your thoughts and comments.

Cheers.

Before you go on shoveling up for more dating tips on how to get a girl interested in you further, I’ve got one powerful pointer for you.

Ask yourself this question: How do you see yourself?

This could just be the key question to ironing out the pesky and seemingly irremovable wrinkles to your game. It’s the exact same question I ask myself everyday.

Whenever you wake up to see that person in the mirror, who do you honestly see? Look deeply into that person and reflect.

Do you see a grumpy weathered cynic? Do you seem like a guy who has an invisible titanium wall barring you from others? Do you look like the kind of guy people would give you a once-over look and forget about?

When you move, do you look strikingly confident and intriguing with every muscle that you move? Do you seem like a guy who possesses this fuzzily inviting self-love that breeds comfort and warmth to those you interact with?

When you look at the man behind the mirror, what are the first few words that immediately spring to mind?

What needs to be changed?
What words should be replaced, and with what? Why?

These are some of the most strategically effective questions you should ask yourself if, not limited to when succeeding with women, but also life in general.

Take a moment for yourself and ask these questions. Once you’ve got the answers, you’ll know what gaps need to be filled. Then, commit yourself to taking the necessary actions to escalating your character/personality/skills.

With this easy yet potentially life changing exercise, you’ll pin down exactly the passive method on how to get a girl interested increasingly through time. Women will throw themselves at you. Remember, self-elevation should always be continuous. Never grow complacent.

Write out all your “hot” qualities, pit them against your “not so hot” ones, and you will gain clarity on how you can become more attractive as a man.

So you and her have both boarded the “exclusively dating” docks. Most guys at this stage, face the nagging question: “How can I keep this going?” Some believe that it becomes more difficult than attracting her from the jump. But knowing how to keep a girl interested in you the long haul requires even less work than you can imagine.

Let me dissect the simple science on how to keep a girl interested in the long haul for you with 5 cornerstone tips.

1. Keep doing what always worked! Why break away from your usual routines that yielded success?

Continue taking the lead, setting the boundaries, and being a challenge. Don’t ever “give her the entire you” – otherwise she’ll soon take you for granted. Keep your ambitiousness at an all time high, focus on your career, and also other areas of life that make you happy. See her sparingly if you must, but when you do spend time with her, make it an unforgettable time.

It’s a psychological principle that needs to be obeyed to the T. You want her to keep competing for your attention. Just because she’s officially your girl now, does not mean you soften up and make more sacrifices for her. The attraction cards still need to be played, and the fun dynamic still needs to be oiled up!

2. Brush aside the “worries and concerns” of “how to keep a girl interested”. If you constantly live in fear that she may leave you some day, then your actions will only come across as desperate, which then compels her to dash out the doors even earlier. It’s always better to let her know in the back of her mind, that you will always have options, and that you are not afraid of being single or independent.

3. Women will always require some form of emotional stimuli to keep them interested. Keep her both intellectually and physically engaged! If not, they’ll restlessly find a guy who will keep her free from the chains of boredom. It could be her friend, colleague, whoever. You want to turn average things to exciting. That’s why the dynamics of getting too comfortable with each other doesn’t fare well in the long haul.

4. Great relationships aren’t based on external elements. Romantic kisses in the rain, late night ambles on the beaches are all Hollywood influenced fantasies. Great relationships stem from the high quality of character from both sides. When you’re both happy, you can just lay around at home, watch a movie together, without worrying about having to do anything extravagant to make the time spent together worthwhile.

If you can’t accept the simple mundane activities – then the relationship is doomed for failure. So make sure you girl understands this, and is not deluded into thinking that she will find her own Aladdin one day who’ll take her up for a ride around the world in a Persian flying carpet.

5. Stop taking the “exclusive status” so seriously. Being boyfriend/girlfriend does not mean you have to see each other every day, or give each other a good night call before dozing off. It does not mean you’ll have a higher tolerance to accept her occasional fits or irrational behavior.

Tease he, and don’t spoil her. Maybe only when it’s her birthday. Continue being a colorful character that’s unpredictable. The roller coaster effect needs to be seamlessly woven into the cloth of your relationship. At the same time, be her better half, and roll with her through the thick and thin. Yes, that’s some cliched stuff you need to adhere to. Always have her associate you with “Joie de vive” – the Joy of life!

Well, I gotta pack now guys. Taipei tomorrow. Stay tuned for Part two on how to keep a girl interested in the long term!

When approaching a girl in broad daylight, what can you learn from Johnny Bravo?

The guy’s fearless! Look at how he barely allows any sign of hesitation to gain momentum. Now that’s the raw confidence you need when approaching a girl.

Notice how he never wonders whether his target will “like” him or not, or what he “should say”.

Just go for it – make that dash like Johnny. Put your game face on, be proud of who you are, and introduce yourself to her

Well, well, well, we’ve arrived at Part 3 of “How to get girls in the club”. I really didn’t think it would come this far.

In this entry, I’ll be expounding on 2 correct and winning mindsets you should adopt inside a club, and how to telegraph an attractive vibe that’ll make the ladies soak their panties.

This will help boost the probability of you ending the night with more numbers stored in your phone memory, and more pairs of legs to spread.

Let’s get on with it.

1. Don’t be too self-conscious. This is the greatest barrier to success with women inside the club. It bogs down your ability to approach women – as you’re being too conscious of possibilities like getting rejected.

And, if you don’t approach, you get no results. The girl’s aren’t going to hurl themselves at you unless you’re some local celebrity figure, GQ model looking, or if she’s one of the following: super intoxicated, extremely horny, or desperate.

Most guys think that by approaching a girl on the scene, they will instantly be placed under intense scrutiny.

The truth? The bartender, club owner, or that person to your right doesn’t care about who you’re approaching. They’re too busy trying to enjoy themselves, or just getting flat out drunk.

The only people that may notice what you’re up, are the friends your target came with; but if you were not too conscious of that, it would never have bothered you. So this is when ignorance is bliss – pay no mind to what others think of you inside the club.

If you work your game right with a confident personality and upbeat body language, you’ll go a lot further than you expected.

When you’re too self-conscious, you sweat too much about the trivial matters like “What others are thinking of you.” You’re bottling up so much “worry” that you’re compromising your ability to have fun and live up to the present moment.

2. Don’t take anything too serious. When you take anyone or anything too seriously inside the club, you do way more harm than good to yourself. You’re hurting your chances of what you should’ve came out for: Having a blast.  They should really enforce a club policy where “Taking anything too seriously here is prohibited. Having fun is highly welcomed.”

By being too serious, you will fear the possibility of being rejected from approaching. You will inadvertently be self-conscious. It then makes you more desperate to calculate some method to attract women – and this is when you will seem like you have an agenda, which women detest.

Don’t be serious. She’s out to have a good time, and so should you.

Walk up to 10 girls consecutively and just “Hello” each with a “knowing smile”. Consider it a fun challenge to thicken your skin and gain more experience points. A hello and smile! Nothing more. Have fun.

Don’t be intimidated by how hot the girls all look inside the club. Tell yourself that most of these girls look at least 30% worse outside. These girls all eat, shit, sleep, and have problems.

Once you’ve reached your tenth, you may just come to the revelation that women aren’t so negative after all. For every 10 woman you grab your balls to to say “Hello” to, at least 2-3 will give you a smile. Trust me, someone will take the bite.

Women are out clubbing, not only to hang out with their friends, but hopefully meet a guy who has the guts to “make a move “on her, spike her attraction level, and make her feel like “it’s okay” to get dirty with you.

That’s a pretty decent success ratio. Since the encounter was so brief, they will all be wondering “who you were” after you just confidently walked away.

After you’ve completed your “Hello and Smile” challenge, return to the ones that gave you positive responses with a :

“Hello there again.  You know I  just toured the whole room, and GUESS WHAT? (pause, and she’ll ask you out of curiosity) You seem to be the most interesting one here.  What’s up. How are you doing?”

This always breaks the ice. What  you want to do next is transition into something more personal. How’s she enjoying the night so far? What’s she wearing that you can comment on or tease her with?

Note: Keep the conversation short, emotionally charged, and hyper-playful. No serious conversational topics, or exchange in formalities.  A quick 3-5 minutes of witty fun talk does it.

If you press on for more than 15 minutes with her, she may see you as low value.

End the conversation on a high note. Tell her, “Listen, it was great talking to you. Let’s keep in touch later.” Then, take out your phone, assume she is going to comply and give you her digits, and tell her to “Put down her number.” Don’t ask, just tell her to do it. Make sure you dial her up, to check that her phone rings so you can confirm it’s her number.

Smile, and bounce back to your friends or next target. You can follow up with her later on (to see if she’s going to an after party etc.) after a good 15-20 minutes separation.

3. Telegraph your vibe right. This is one of the most critical aspects on how to get girls successfully, which not only applies inside the club, but anywhere else.

You body language and expression should not have an attitude that conveys “I am here to pick up some chicks.” Control your eagerness to get laid,  because if you’re really desperate, it will permeate into your image and behavior.

A girl will want to sleep with you, if you look like you don’t care whether or not you get some.

When a girls spot you, they will make a snap judgment of whether or not you “look like a guy” she can have a good time with not only in the club, but later “outside the club.”

Women are attracted when they can see you sharing laughs with your friends.

They like it when they see a man with a “I got my shit together” vibe. A man who dresses sharp, smiles genuinely, exchanges high fives with friends. A man that prioritizes “fun” over “pussy”, brings “fun to the table”, and appears totally in control with himself & the situation at hand!

You can demonstrate “potential fun” in her eyes, by actually having fun!

Don’t stand by the bar, holding onto a drink with a secret admirer’s eyes. That shit ain’t sexy. Posting up by the bar waiting for something to happen, can only lead to only one result: another lonely ride back home.

Most guys order a drink after drink to keep that buzz, and next thing they know, the club’s nearing it’s closing hours, the girl(s) they wanted already left, or they’re taken by some other dudes.

The easiest way to telegraph that ‘sexy vibe’, is to move your body. Brush up on other girl’s body.

Sponge up the bass, get in sync with the music, and surf the waves of ultimate high.

Learn how to dance if you can’t. Seriously, enroll in a few dance (hip hop preferably) classes. The 20-30 hours of investment will last you for a lifetime.  Or be cheap and YouTube dance moves and mimic the dancers.

Although women can tell whether a guy can move or not, most of them don’t have high standards! They melt when they see a guy that’s got the basics down. Why? Because most guys can’t dance, so the grading criteria is much more lenient.

Being able to move your body is an instant turn on. It’s no myth my friend: If you can dance, it is analogous to being superb in the sheets also.

Have a good night