Amongst the most effective way to get girls is being skin-deep confident with expressing your sexuality. Most guys consider this a dilemma, as it can come across as creepy, or simply contradictory to the purpose of being “mysterious” and challenging. This will only be the case if you can’t express your sexuality naturally.

The thing is, you should never be afraid of getting “caught” red-handed expressing your sexual desires.

You want to check a woman out? Go ahead, just don’t look like a salivating chronic pervert who hasn’t jacked off for days. There’s a fine difference between “scanning”  a woman in a pre-qualifying way, and one with a predator’s unflinching  gaze.

Nonetheless, you should never recoil from expressing your sexuality. Do not feel shameful or guilty of this act. Smash down this barrier of fear. It’s part of your life. Embrace it to the fullest.

“If you bury your sexuality, you bury your sexy drive and life.” – Me.

Here are 10 pivotal tips on how you can get comfortable with your own sexuality.

1. First and foremost, you must accept yourself for who you are (as an intellectually advanced ape) and understand that it is coded in your biological nature to be ready-to-fuck. Let a woman know exactly that you love sex. Better yet, give it to her.

2. Stop watching estrogen-inspiring soap operas and chick flicks. Leave them alone as they don’t inspire your inner masculinity, but rather chew away at its bones. Don’t’ be afraid of women! They’re not going to knife your balls and feed it to your neighbors dogs.

3. It should be a daily habit where you should just “Feel fucking good about yourself.” Work hard and accomplish things. Realize your goals, and raise the bar for yourself. A strong ongoing sense of self-accomplishment gives you confidence, which feeds your sexual vibe.

4. Stick to a healthy dietary and exercising regime to keep yourself in shape. Yes, you have to work on your body. Lose the weight if you’ve the extras – fat deposits secrete estrogen. Empty that shit. Get some nice biceps – women always notice them, and may even ask to touch them. The better you feel about yourself, and the more confident you are with your package, the sharper your sexuality seductively stings.

I wrote an in-depth entry on why else you should whip yourself into shape, and how you get accomplish this feat easily. Check it out here: Classic Tip on How To Get Girls

5. Practice eye-contact with yourself. Be brutally honest, how do you feel? Who do you see?. Do you look intimidating? Inviting? Friendly? Respectable? Attractive? Are you pleased with who you see in the mirror? How would you respond if you saw yourself in public? What do you need to improve on? Get on with it.

6. Focus on good body language. This is one of the best way to get girls – when you acquire full mastery of enhancing your body language. Your physical posture and inner thoughts greatly affects your state of sexuality. Some starters are to never slouch or hunch over when you’re walking or talking.

Watch some  Hip Hop or R&B music . Look how they interact with the video vixens they have on deck. They’re all secure with expressing their sexuality; they hold nothing back.

More importantly, work from then “inside’ out. What you think will determine how you look. You want a posture of a captain or undefeated champion? then think like one. Or think along the lines of “invincible, untouchable” outer space hero. Do whatever works for you.

7. Don’t be afraid of body contact. Women welcome the thought of being touched, as long as your approach to it is fluid. Do not ever be afraid of invading a woman’s privacy or getting in close proximity. Share your special presence with her.

If a woman offers a hand shake, you can shake your head and tell her “no, I only do heart to hearts. Then pump your chest out and wait for her to reciprocate”. It’s fun, playful, and you demonstrate that you’re not afraid of body contact.

8. Do it like its part of your “way of life” or culture. When you’re talking to a girl, remember to always find opportunities to touch them, and do so comfortably. Keep testing the waters and she how she responds. That’s how you determine where you stand with her. Every girl will respond slightly differently. Some are very physical, some require strong comfort build up first. Different strokes for different folks.

When I meet women in the club and I notice something cool about them (e.g their personality, energy level, clothing), I tell them that they “get a hug for being cool”, then proceed to hugging them. Get used to making physical contact.

9. Be comfortable in being verbally sexual. Step out of your comfort zone and say “risky” or “near offensive” things., but make sure you deliver it in a teasing and non-serious attitude. Don’t be afraid to blurt out things like “Stop turning me on by wearing so little.” Say it with a playfully troubled look. Just dont’ take the crassness overboard – I’m sure you can use your best of judgement.

They key is to slip in sexual innuendos whenever you can playfully. Tie it with humor. This way you’ll never be friend zoned. You may even tell a girl “how it turns you on” when she does something embarrassing, for example, when she accidentally releases gas.

10. Enjoy life. Do the things you love. Pursue your hobby, profession, favorite sport activity. Having a strong passion and letting it shine is very admirable and attractive to women. It is food for your sexual-being. Women will eat up this good vibe and return for more bites – given that your hobbies can be potentially interesting for them.

Whatever it is, you want to do things that will regularly keep your mood and energy level high. Once you’re at ease, or better yet, at a semi-ecstatic state, you’ll be more comfortable with being sexual.

All in all, learn to have a good time. That’s one of the secret way to get girls that will always be in full effect. Be happy. Be sexual. Let go off all the life’s bullshit and stress, and fulfill your primal urges.

Stay tuned for the next entry: Club Game Pt. 3!

What up guys. Today, we’re going to take your game to a whole new level.

In this entry, I’m going to reveal to you how the attitude, outlook and characteristics of a King can help you get more girls.

Here’s a dating secret: Women easily submit to those greater than them. These insights should be woven to the very fabric of you inner game. They sure make a killer foundation in the long run.

Don’t get your heads high up in the clouds now though. You should never be a tyrant, nor someone too stubborn or difficult to deal with.

1. To be a king, you must first have a kingdom. A woman wants a man with a kingdom. Metaphorically speaking, your “kingdom” is your “life”. You must have a “life”. Just as jurisdictions are established inside a kingdom’s reign, there should be a set of beliefs and rules you live in accord to, which should never be compromised.

2. Don’t be afraid to put a woman in their place. This is your kingdom, make them play by your rules, and never tolerate disrespect or rebellion. You are giving that girl an “opportunity” to join your fascinating kingdom. If she acts irritates you, exile. Find another more deserving queen to sit on the throne with you.

A king provides for his people, he leads, and respects himself, and every woman of the state wants to be part of the royal circle. This is how you should run any relationship – you play the pilot, you take the lead.

3. Since you are king, you do not kiss a woman’s ass. You are the chooser.  You do not relinquish your power to others, otherwise they’ll somehow use it against you.  In other words, never be a woman’s subservient bitch, aka don’t ever be pussy-whipped. So, what’s your kingdom like?

4. You should “feel like a king”. When you feel like a king, you will have more control with yourself. You achieve that harmony and concrete confidence. You have a sense of dignity and power. Treat your time with weight. You shape life according to your own will.

People invest in you, and try to give you benefits. Why feel weak and inferior when you can choose to feel great about yourself?
So, stop worrying about any trivial matters in your life.
When you’re trying to attract a girl, stop worrying about “what she may be thinking of you.” Stop worrying about competition also. You are king, no other guys can rival you.
5. A king develops his kingdom. Metaphorically, you should take active interest in personal growth. Shape up your health, well-being, job. Don’t be dependent on other people, let people depend on you. Get your shit together, and people will naturally look up to you.
6. Of course, just like a king, you also have your advisors. Advisors can be your friends, family, professor, or even a stranger. Someone out there will help you make smarter decisions and gain newer perspective. Don’t overlook it. It’s up to you to decide whether their insights are sound.
Listen to what they say, but always make your own decisions. You influence yourself. There should be no limits to education. Never claim to know-it-all. A true king is humble and always willing to learn. Knowledge should be an endless quest.
7. A king possess the voice of authority, and women want a man who commands authority. So, don’t be afraid to hand the ones with their heads in the sky reality checks.
For example, I’ve met girls who are too lazy to walk down a block and demanded to grab a cab. It wasn’t even that far of a walk, so I told her to “be thankful she’s got the legs” to walk, and then I told her that “acting spoiled like a princess isn’t sexy.”
Only a powerful and dominant man will have the courage to do this.  They should respect your decisions, and never disobey you.
Women will only be satisfied or attracted if they have to “work for you.” The challenge factor must constantly be there, or they’ll find it in someone else. Challenge can be translated to greatly “rewarding” and “worth the time” Anything that is easy to get is not appreciated or goes undervalued.
We are genetically programmed to like to struggle a bit before being rewarded, the reward taste better.
Re-read this article again, and this “king mentality.”

Believe me, radiating king-like traits creates an irresistible attraction, which all lies in your power. People around you will start to notice you, respect you, and see more social value. It will contribute to all areas of your life, not just towards getting more girls.

If you can change your mentality, attitude, and behavior it will show automatically through your body language, voice tone, the way you carry yourself, etc.
They will smell your power and dominance and their natural biological drive to mate with a dominant male will kick in.

By the way, I will soon be launching my 3 Minute Tips Video series. This will be broadcasted throughout the web on all major directories like YouTube, Vimeo, Viddler, Howcast, and more.

The first episode will pertain to “What women really want” from a man.

Make sure you come back

I thought it’d be super handy for my readers if I documented more of my own personal life outings, adventures, experiences.

Well here it is field report: A night out in a coyote bar, where I share with you some golden tips on how talk to girls and how to get a girl interested inside such venue.

Here, you’ll learn how to…

1. Make every coyote girl eye you in way that communicates they “want” you.
2. How to not ever let a woman’s looks destroy your confidence level again.
3. What conversational topics to run with coyote girls to build instant connection.
4. How to leave the venue with your girl’s number.

Before we begin, let me power drill this into your skull: If you ever shy away from Coyote girls – don’t; the have far more reason not to. From my long time observation, most patrons come to a loss with words when stunned by a woman’s beauty, or they become a bartender by buying them drinks.

Whenever you feel like you’re losing grip with your inner confidence, remind yourself: These are all normal girls, in nice bodies. You’re only hurting your chance of success by not manning up .Visualize yourself stripping away their veil of makeup, and ask yourself what more they have to offer to you besides their lips, tits, and ass.

All physically blessed women have their days of bad breath and bad cases of diarrhea. Judge a woman’s value never by her external façade, but her overall core character. I’m not a misogynist, but women aren’t angels. Some may have that angelical look, but no, they aren’t angels.

Women are people, and people are flawed.

Instead, what you want to do is make her qualify and prove her worth to you, before you give her unreasonable high marks. Get her to “show and prove”. That’s how you get more girls. Judging by looks to determine a woman’s worth is superficial, which I know you’re not.

Ok, let’s get started to the meat of the story.

Basically, me and boys decided on the last minute after our weekly Futsal game to down a couple of beers in the coyote bars here in Bangkok the other day. Why coyote bars and not strip clubs? Well, the girls in coyote bars are sexier, intellectual, and to me, they seem to carry higher standards.

Me and my boys casually stroll in.

After seating ourselves with the best view to observe all dancers, and then ordering our drinks, the female “manager/pimp” of the house comes to greet us and kindly suggests that we select a girl to accommodate us.

Now, what usually happens when you request a girl to sit beside you is that they’ll attempt to milk your wallet further, by pleading and guilt-tripping you to buy them a drink. This is for who those haven’t experienced a typical coyote bar here in Bangkok.

Knowing her ulterior motive, I select the manager herself, who was at least in her mid 50’s. She laughs, kindly refuses, and says she’s “too old” for me. I tell her how she still maintains a “young and sexy vibe,” “so I don’t mind.” “I’m sure we can have a mature discussion together”. She chuckles even more with my playful persistence, and I decide to end the talk there by telling her “I’ll pick another girl soon in a few minutes.”

Anyways, why did I talk to the floor manager (lady pimp)? Well, here’s a grand lesson you can take away.

Once you establish rapport or a good relationship with all the upper-hierarchy members in any night club venue, the working girls inside will automatically respect and love you more. They see this as a bold move.

And guess what… fortune and sex favors the bold.

So by going out the way, you instantly raise your perceived value and differentiate yourself immediately. In their minds, when they see their boss or superiors “having a good time” with you, it’s like you’ve won an official seal of approval from her. All that is required is on your part is good humor, steely balls, and sharp social skills. Treat the bosses or superiors like your friend, and that’s the easiest way no how to get a girl interested guaranteed.

10 minutes into the scene, we all decided to choose a girl. I chose the finest-looking one of the pack. The waitress sends her down, and the fun begins.

For those of you stumped on how to talk to girls of coyote status: Don’t ever let the idea of running a conversation pressure you. You’re not striving for world peace, or planning a jail break.

Your sole aim is to “get to know more about her”. Stop worrying about having to seduce her or presenting yourself as an attractive dude.

Just lead the conversation, keep it emotionally engaging, and you’ve got the cat in the bag.
Keep the opener simple, since it’s their job to initiate a conversation themselves. However, if you want to win them over, you most lead and control the dynamic of the conversation. That’s how you get a girl interested in general. Lead, lead, and lead.

More importantly, keep your energy level mid-high since you’re in a loud setting with music blaring. You want her to hear you clearly.

ALL FUN & TEASE

As she walks toward me, I lithely said in a British accent “Hello there.”

She wais , smiles, ensconces beside me. Then she introduces herself and tells me her name is “Mind”. (Yes, Thai people have odd nicknames).

Using her name as bait, I teasingly confront her and say… “So, you’re a highly intellectual being huh?” Since she also had glasses on, I made a remark on how “that explains why you have glasses. You’re playing your part! Lovely.”

She laughs, gives me a light punch, telling me to stop being a “tease” in Thai.

I continue teasing her, “Well that all makes sense. You did a fantastic job.”

I then notice a Chinese character tattooed on her back saying “Yi”, which translates as “Meaning” in Chinese. I ask her why she chose that particular word, out of the thousands of more “nice and meaningful Chinese characters” available.

She tells me “it’s pretty”. I playfully scoff,” is that the only reason? Do you know what it means?”

She says “No. Not at all.”

I congratulate again, telling her “good job.”

At this point, her attraction level is near boiling as I can tell from her positive body language (where she’s inching closer, and breaking into smiles often smiles intermittently). So far, all I’ve been doing is teasing her, instead of behaving like the norm where you’re either complimenting on her looks, trying to stick your penis into their ovaries, or getting them to fondle with your testicles.

I then go back to asking her again if she really didn’t know what her tattoo meant, which she confirms with rueful honesty in her eyes. Then, she begs me to explain.

To tease her further, I jokingly tell her it means “Boredom,” and jokingly tell her “It’s ok, we all make mistakes with our choices.” She gasps and a mild look of shock and embarrassment fills up her blush-pending face. I then rub her back in a circular motion to console her – a perfect opportunity to get physical.

LET’S “GET PERSONAL”

Later, I play my “let’s get personal” cards, where I tell her to explain to me what “inspired her to be a coyote girl.” Remember, it’s all about strengthening the connection if you want them to really be into you. You don’t want the girls to treat you like a customer, but a prospective mate, to mate with. As a bonus, they also stop pestering you about buying them overpriced drinks.

She tells me about how she graduated from an economic major up north in Chiang Mai (Northern City), and made the decision to move to the capital instead to see what life is like here.

I ask her why an Economics graduate would seek for a job field like this, and asked whether because it made “economical sense.” More laughs evoked, and she agrees with me on how it pays so much better, plus, she enjoys dancing.

Next, I ask her how “dancing makers her feel”.

Then I ask her “what her life is like in the daytime.”

As you can see, there are no rocket-science questions here, yet I’m steadily forging a stronger emotional connection by gearing the conversation towards “her.”

The more a woman reveals about herself, the more she’s unknowingly investing herself into you.
Concerned that the “pimp” may catch her not doing her job, she points to the beer bottle and asks if I would buy her a drink. I tell her “Alcohol kills your liver. A dancer shouldn’t drink too much.”

In response, she chatters her teeth, as you would when you’re freezing, which I found amusing.” I tease her further by questioning whether “chattering your teeth like that is an indication of thirst,” and “if that’s what they taught you in your major.”

Right before she returns to her next dance set, I tell her to “give me your number.” Notice how I didn’t ask. It’s far more effective to command, as it exhibits the kind of leadership confidence which women are addicted to.

Now, for your information, it’s actually against the bar’s rule for coyote girls to hand out their numbers to customers when they’re on shift. But, hey, nothing’s impossible, and here’s how you do it.

First, keep it discreet. Tell them to just verbalize their number without writing it down on paper or punching it into your phone. The only work you have to do is memorizing it on the spot.

So, I get her number, and tell her “we’ll talk more later.”

When my girl went back up to the dance platform to perform another 5 minute set, I play the “jealousy card.”
I talk to this other cute coyote girl who my friend chose (who was preoccupied with business-related BBM’ing on his phone). I spotted her rose inked on her naval, and asked why she got it. To no surprise, she provides the same answer “I like it how it looks.”

When a woman ever gives you a plain and boring answer – punish her. So, I ask her with a sincere curious look if she ever considered “tattooing a tree on her entire leg, that way she can look like a “walking garden,” along with some other species of flowers, aloe vera, cactus, and “promised her it’d look very pretty too”, plus, she would be “watering her plants” as long as she showers.

Remember, what you really want to do is just have fun, tease, and get personal. It’s only a matter of time before you get the swing of this formula. It not only lifts up the mood and spirits of those you come in touch with, but also compounds the magnificence of your game.

That’s how you talk to girls, and how you get a girl interested inside coyote bars.

Now, if you’d like discover more cutting edge methods on how to verbally attract women, with wickedly effective ways to go from “hello” on the streets, to “hello” in the sheets, make sure you check out my latest book Verbal Playboy. (What, you haven’t gotten a copy?) I put a lot of time into making it a masterpiece, and I’m sure it’ll be a massive ace up your sleeve.

Check out the book-trailer for “Sync Dating” guys

And if you haven’t done so already, find out my how you can make a girl fall in love with you simply overnight, by playing this breakthrough dating question game.

Yes, she will start to feel that “falling for you” sensation. This game will skyrocket the emotional intimacy between you and her. The chemistry in the air is indisputable, and will be inevitable.

Yes, it will allow you to bypass right into her mind and heart, to discover what she’s really about. She will unfold any detail about herself to you no holds barred, completely unrestrained.

Yes, you and her will both have incredible fun playing it. It will be an enriching experience once you both get to know each other, and it will bring you one step closer to getting physical.

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Before I dash off to my solo soccer workout session, I just wanted to share a quick and timeless dating tip on how to get more girls.

Once word. Exercise.

This sounds like a given, but the thing is, most people fail to follow this simple and classic dating tip. The older most guys get, the less time they have for this shit. I know because I’ve been there.

There are many reasons why most guys don’t hit the gym, or squeeze in hourly slots into their schedule for a quick game of soccer or basketball with their boys.

1. They’re too caught up with college or career. When most of us graduate from high school, everyone’s too busy working, pulling part-times, late-night shifts, and just trying to make more money. For those that work, they’re usually too exhausted to move their asses by the time they get back home.

2. The word “exercise” itself sounds mundane, more so, most people react to it as extra work.

Well, hopefully this entry serves as the turning point where you’ll consider giving “exercise” a big warm welcome to your lifestyle.

Here’s 7 grand reasons why you should exercise.

1. You will lead and live a healthier lifestyle. Once your body is well-shaped and shredded, you’ll get prolonged eye scans and longer attention span from the ladies.

Some may even start approaching you. Here’s the deal: The more sexier body features you have, the more reasons they’ll have to throw themselves wildly at you.

2. You will build and strengthen your immune system to ward off all kinds of diseases, especially obesity. The healthier you are, the more time and energy you’ll have to be around women.

And yes, looking fit and toned beats the living shit out of carrying lumps and rolls. Being overweight or nearing the resemblance of a whale is not something you should be proud of.

3. Exercising easily lets a woman know that you know “how to take care” of yourself, which also translates to them as “I can take care of you.” Didn’t you know some girls get wet when they’re around professional athletes?

4. When you take care of your body, you add more “perceived value” to who you are as an individual. A woman will know that you care about your image and future. This commands mad respect and builds up a feeling of security when they’re around you.

5. With all those waves of endorphin (chemicals that make you feel peaceful and happy) released from a session of intensive exercise, your energy and mood will rev up. You will feel good about yourself. Your foundation of inner confidence goes up.

Once you feel good about yourself, women will feel good around you. That’s another classic tip on how to get more girls. Exercising helps to shift you into that positive mindset by nurturing all your senses with joy.

6. With the cardio and stamina game you’ll be honing, you’ll last even longer without passing the f-ck out when you’re getting freaky with a girl in bed.

Now, if you don’t have a weekly workout routine, start one. The three types of exercising I strongly recommend are: aerobic exercise, strength training, and flexibility training. Think holistic.

Find something of your interest or one that inspires you. For me, it’s basketball, soccer, and just power walking. Oh, sex counts too.

Sign up for hot yoga or gym aerobic classes where you’ll increase your opportunity to meet hordes more hot young women. Yes, it’s in-trend and meditative for women to sign up for these body contorting gym sessions, especially those with day job in the offices.

Make sure you exercise correctly. Give a day in between each workout day so your body can rest, heal, and so your muscles can grow etc. Google a bit about exercising if you need to.

The golden key is to stay committed to your workout regime. And the secret to staying committed is turn whichever form of exercising you’ve chosen into a habit.

Overall, it’s a win-win activity for you, and women will start noticing.

While you’re out scouring for more dating tips on how to get more girls, get out, soak up some vitamin-c powered sunshine, and exercise. The least you can do is to start brisk-walking (I call it power walking).

And like I always say, invest in yourself first so the ladies will invest in you.

Now that’s a classic tip on how you get more girls. Share it with the next generation.

Question from reader:

Dear Andrew,

Thank you
respect
james

My raw and uncut answers:

1. Make a girl feel shy? Well, this is a question that seldom gets asked, but it’s worth going over. Firstly, there’s a good and bad to making a girl feel shy.

The good: If she’s shy towards you, it’s an indubitable indicator that she sees value and has potential interest you.
Women only harbor this form of emotion in the midst of attraction.

The bad: Shyness on a positive note, equates to nervous excitement. However, there’s still a lingering sense of underlying discomfort somewhere. It’s ok for a woman to be shy, temporarily!

The most ideal case would be to get her to chill, relax, and be totally open with you.

Just imagine, would you be having “fun” if you were “shy” around women? No.

Back to the first question. How can you make a girl feel shy?

Establish and maintain a presence where she sees you as someone of higher authority and social value. You can accomplish this by making a name for yourself, or have something to show that represents you as someone with an attractive lifestyle that she’ll want to be a part of.

In a sense, her mind and heart should register you as the “best thing since sliced bread”.

Women will generally feel that shyness strike when they meet a guy that is cultured, dominates the interaction, and moves with a deep sense of maturity and masculinity.

As long as you’re getting her to “chase” you, instead of you being the chaser, she will always feel that jolt of nervous excitement.

Note: This doesn’t mean you switch up into a superiority complex mode on her, but rather someone who has tons of fun to offer, that you play by your own terms, and that she should respect you if you give her your time.

And… to make a woman feel shy is not only restricted to “having good looks”.

2. Get her sexually tense? There are two easy ways to go about with accomplishing this. Go strategically physical and daringly verbal.

The physical: Apply kino gradually – escalate from safe to more erogenous zones. Arms, back, shoulders, waist, and back wrist and back-hand are some safe stops you can consider. Think in terms of “warming her up” first.

Make accidental touches at first so she nervous system gets used to being touched by you.
Increasing her comfort level towards your physical escalation is all about framing “touching” as normal and desirable.

The verbal: Alternatively, you can talk about sex indirectly. More importantly, make sure the timing is right.

What you want to do is make references to sex in a confident, relaxed, or playful manner. For example, if you see a couple making out in public, shake your head in playful disappointment and say “They just couldn’t wait until they get back home huh?”

Then, you can ask her what she thinks about making out in public, and what the craziest near-sexual conduct she may have experienced with a guy in public with.

Just be prepared when the opportunity presents itself – which it always will. Most guys just don’t pay attention.

You may also switch it up and play the romance card by giving genuine compliments here and there.

If you think she’s an eccentric character, tell her you think she’s “eccentric,” but “you like it.” A personality-based compliment, as opposed to appearance based can trigger good sexual tension.

3. To get a woman attracted instantly without breaking rapport? It all comes down to how you run & manage the flow of conversation.

When you’re ready to upgrade your verbal game to new dizzying heights (learn how to go from hello on the streets, to hello in bed) check out my Verbal Playboy guide at www.verbalplayboy.com

An easy and effortless method to create rapport is to get her to talk about herself (women love talking about what’s going on with their lives), and when she does, listen carefully since she’ll cast a blizzard of cues pertaining herself.

The more she’s telling you about herself, the more she’s subconsciously investing and opening herself to you, therefore you’d be strengthening the roots of intimacy between you two!

Furthermore, with these informational cues, you’ll have more relevant & engaging topics to choose from for conversational starters. You may also establish common grounds of interests or life experiences.

Make sure the “cues” you extract and inject back into the conversation with contains emotional positive value.

In other words, talk about things that will make her happy, not things that’ll make her reach for some anti-depressant pills.

Also avoid dwelling on topics that borders boredom. For e.g, talking about anything that she has / had no personal involvement in.

If you talk about what a miracle comeback from your favorite soccer team that played last night, and she has no idea about it, nor does she care about the sport, then you’ll be breeding boredom like watching paint dry.

Hope you enjoyed the read, and keep coming at me with the questions guys. I’d love to help.

Cheers.

Andrew

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Alright guys, I know it’s been hmm, almost a month since my last post.

Reason: I’m nearing the end of my getaway Euro trip at the moment. More specifically, I’ve been traveling throughout Germany (Frankfurt, Fussen, Heidelberg), Switzerland (Zurich, Bern, Luzern) and France (Strasbourgh, Colma).
But, no, I haven’t forgotten you guys.

Today, I bring to you Part 2 for my Failproof Online Dating Tips for Men Series.

We’ll now be going over the principles on your communication behaviors online with women.

The three essential components are messaging, live chatting, and status updating.

Let’s get to it.

1. Custom tailoring your messages. The second you see a prospect online, resist the urge to message her right away with a recycled message. I know guys who copy and paste the same opening message to every girl. If you’re going to do this, at least mention her name in the same sentence where you say Hi to her. Personalize your message so she actually feels like you’re talking to her, not at her.

Before you message any girl, examine her profile page first. If she’s not the lazy type and spends a great amount of time surfing the net, she will have updated her page with more than 5 facts about herself. The basics like her age, location, work place don’t count. Fish in some information about her. Look at her photo albums, written biography, interests displayed. Try find something that sparks your curiosity, or if you find something in common, and use that as bait.

Please, do not blast out long and windy messages detailing how special and gifted she seems to you. Review your message before submitting, and ensure that it demonstrates good personality, humor, and non-desperation. This is all you need to break the ice online.

2. Nurturing your wall comments.

You have to take advantage of the wall commenting feature. Remember that in Part 1, social value gives you excellent leverage. Treat your wall comment like your own garden – water it every day until it’s lusciously green and worthy of charging people to step foot in for. Ok, maybe I went too far there.

Just make sure you are interacting with people – even if it’s your sister. Make sure you’ve got people posting comments on your walls.

When a woman notices that you are highly interactive social being, it makes her feel more comfortable and inclined to reply to your messages. Her subconscious deduction is this: “Since everyone is talking to you, I guess it’s cool that I do the same also.”

We all grew up gravitating towards the “popular” people. Remember our middle school and high school days? Well, that popularity element still yields residual effect. Social value is sexy to the ladies.

Now, if you’re going to be proactive in sending out multiple messages to the ladies online, make sure you change your privacy settings. If you’re on Facebook, make sure you “Turn off feature that shows wall you posted on.”
You don’t want your status feeds to show that you just spent the last 3 hours commenting on over 100 girl’s wall.

3. Avoid the Live Chat

When you’ve added a girl to your friend’s list, it does not mean you’re obligated to chatting her up right away. Most guys will message a woman on their live chat when they see their girl log on. My personal advice is to avoid the live chat function.

Stick to sending personal messages to her inbox – it’s more intimate and women generally treat their inbox messages more seriously than some guy on live chat bombing her with questions and smileys.
All in all, live chat doesn’t hold as much weight as personal messages do.

You should have “more important things” to do than to spend your days and night on live chat.

Oh, and please don’t waste your clicks doing anything related to “poking” a girl – that stuff is weak, and will not get you a high response rate unless you’re George Clooney.

In part 3 for my online dating tips for men series, I will cover in greater detail the arts of bridging into a date from online, to offline. Stay tuned.

I’ve been getting a slew of requests to follow up with my Online Dating Tips for Men article series in the past, so being the dutiful dating instructor and aspiring-prolific blogger that I am, it’s time to deliver the goods.

Here are 3 paramount online dating tips on how to get more girls without leaving your house, and with minimal effort. Yes, I will supply only easy, effective and powerful solutions for you. Methods I personally employ until this day. Even if approaching women online is not in your avenue of interests, you might as well give it a shot since it’ll barely take up much of your precious time and brain power.

Plus, you never know who you may find online, or who may just find you.

1. Getting some high-quality photos. Double-check that your main display photo is high quality, visible, and not grainy or blurry. For one, quality photos immediately sub-communicate greater standards. You often get a positive response with a clear shot.

This may sound obvious, but many people forget: Make sure you can actually be identified. When it comes to personal profile pictures, it’s no time to play Mr. Mysterious. No one wants to guess how you look like. How would respond if you stumbled upon a random girl’s page, and she’s got a photo of a chair to represent herself? Ambiguity doesn’t sell. Do not leave “how you look” up to their imagination.

If you know someone with a decent digital camera – most cameras are 5 mega pixels up nowadays – get them to take some photos for you. Try to avoid mobile camera snaps if you can. Save those for the mobile photo albums.

Another profile photo tip is to make sure you’re looking good. Smile at the very least. You want a woman to check you out for at least 2-3 seconds, not a half-second glance over. Just ask yourself how you would respond if you saw yourself.

Don’t try to act all slick and cool unless your social status supports it. Appear congruent with who you are in character. Mike Tyson for example, would only look awkward if we catch him with a cheeky smile for his Facebook photo.

2. Social Proof. Just as you should cultivate your social value in real life, social proof works wonders in stirring attraction in online dating . The most often abused yet effective method is to have an army of friends on your social network. However, there’s one caveat to this method: Make sure there’s regular interaction with your friends on your wall. You don’t want her to suspect you of adding people without having any real connection to them.

Another easy way to amp up your social value is to upload photos featuring you and your friends, preferably mix in both male and female. Don’t forget photos you’ve taken with your family. Women all want a family-guy. Most importantly, you must make sure you’re having a good time. When you’ve got photos capturing your moments of fun, she will associate you with “fun”, and opens the possibility for her to expect “fun” when hanging out with you. Keep those photos of you looking emo and lonely at bay.

3. Biography Juice. This is the only exception to leaving something up to their imagination. Do not lay out your life story. Keep it short and sweet. Make every sentence count. Every line should hold weight, and let your personality shine through. When it comes to online dating, your biography section should indirectly communicate that you’re someone with “something going on in his life.” Talk about three respectable and exciting things that you do. 2-3 paragraphs will suffice.

The opener must be attention-grabbing, and block your paragraphs. Keep it easy on the eyes. Again, omit anything dull or boring about yourself. If you dread going to work, keep that between you and your dog.

When your whole paragraph evokes a strong and warm emotional response, that’s when you’ll have a chance with meeting her in person. You want to leave a positive lasting impression. Your biography space is essentially your window of opportunity to showcase your identity in a positive light.

In Part 2 of my online dating tips for men series, you’ll learn exactly how to approach women online: What you should say to her, what you must refrain from doing, and how to score yourself a face-to-face date – and no, I’m not talking about web-cam conversations.

In part 1, I gave you a timeless insight on the unveiled reality and the common illusions most men face when going out to approach women in the club.

One of the biggest lessons you should’ve picked up is that your competition level is ridiculously lower than you assume. 80% of the guys in the room won’t know how to approach a woman or how to get girls, point blank period. That’s a secret you can use as leverage on how to get the girls in the clubs.

Now in part two, I’m going to share with you three timeless tips on how to get girls in the club. We’re going to focus on now are your behaviors and how you should carry yourself inside the club to maximize your attraction value.

Here are some critical factors you need to run through on your checklist.

1. Build social value. Social value on the surface will serve as a massive leverage. When you are seen with other girls, the girls inside the club will take notice. Get into the habit first of cold approaching a girl, and then rotate onto the next person.

There’s nothing wrong with sarging solo in the club, but be seen with other people. I’d go to a club sometime by myself and make new friends there. Especially if you’re a guy, you can find a wing-man easily if you see another guy out alone in the club.

This is very common, you just have to pay attention. Afterall, every guy is out for the same thing – to get a girl. So team up, help each other out.

2. Hang with the club owners, managers, PR’s, bouncers, bartenders, camera man, or even the cashier.

Get to know the staff the venues that you often frequent. This will give you more social value, which converts to more winning edge. You never know, the club owner may give you drink vouchers, discounts, free shots, VIP treatment; all this adds tremendous value to your social value, and will wow the girl you want to attract. See yourself as the crème de la crème guys of the night.

3. Look and smell good. Yes, outer appearance, or should I say, your presentation are major composites of selling point. Since you’re in a club, women will generally use their eyes to judge you on first impression. They’ll notice your physicality: Your body language, facial features, and what you’re wearing. The way you wear your clothes will either win or subtract you points. If you look overweight, then shape up. No excuses.

Once you’re within close proximity, she will involuntarily smell you, if you smell good that is. So invest in some quality cologne, don’t boot leg them. Hit the mall, grab a cool bottle of Aqua Di Gio or Ralph Lauren Black. Not to mention, when you’re shopping at the cologne section, you’ll get a chance to strike up conversations and flirt with the sales lady.

Not to go off topic, you want something that will last throughout the night, but make sure to not give yourself too heavy of a sprinkle. And guys, when you’re in the club, do a breath and sweat check. Escort yourself to the nearest restroom and dry up. Women detest men with liquid oozing out their pores. It’s disturbing, repulsive, uninviting. In fact, it will scare them panties-less. Would you approach a girl if she was sweating all over? I hope not.

Remember guys, when you’re out in the club, maintain a strong positive, vibrant, upbeat energy. Look like you’re having fun. Those are the traits on how to get a woman hooked onto you. A guy that knows how to have a good time – that’s what they want, since most of them will usually wind up bored listening to the same music and hanging out with the same people. Don’t just have the same intentions like other guys who are only out to pick up girls. Don’t just crash the party, be the life of the party.

Make sure you check out Part 3 on how to get the girls in the clubs, where you’ll know how to amplify your attraction meter exponentially higher.

It’s no surprise that most modern guys still find it a tricky mission when it comes down to how to get girls in the club. They wonder how you can talk to a girl in such a noisy voice-drowning environment, and how to not resort to the “Can I buy you a drink” approach – since it never really works and immediately identifies you as a supplicant type.

Because most can’t dance also, they really have nothing at their immediate disposal to really attract a woman with. Most guys just lack the foundational guiding principles to push them forward with the right dose of energy, flair, and confidence.

There are actually multiple killer-methods you can employ on how to approach a girl in the club, but that’ll come in part 2.

To approach women in the club with a higher hit rate of success, there is one under-discussed truth you must first be well aware of.

Firstly, know that your competition level is bound to be very low. Why? Well, most guys are readily intimidated by the mere thought of approaching the hottest women in the club. I’m sure you’ve caught a lot of guys acting like flies on the wall, holding on to their drinks, and staring at the girls. This is straight up creepy and definitely not sexy for the ladies.

Just like you, most guys have already assumed that the finest-picks are either already taken, have a boyfriend, or will give you a hostile response by rejecting you with their verbal swordsmanship.

They already have this deeply entrenched preconditioned belief that most women just aren’t that friendly or approachable. Such preconception is highly disruptive and destructive to the process on how to get girls in general, so make sure you abandon this belief right now.

You’ve probably experienced the same exact thought-process, which is actually a false reality you’re creating as an excuse to not approach women due to your insecurity, shyness, or fear of being turned down like a bad resume. You fear that your ego may be shattered, so nothing is accomplished.

Well, what does all this translate to? Barely any guys are approaching! You really have less competition than you may think. This gives you more advantage as women will be a lot more accepting of the guys who have the confidence and guts to step to the plate.

If you already have a copy of my 20 Dating Secrets guide, you should know by now that all women in the club want guys to hit on them! Less than 10% of the sociable girls who go out at night are there solely for the booze, music, and dancing. Even when they’re having a girl’s night out, they all anticipate on “getting lucky” too, as long as the right guy comes by.

Plus, most of the guys have no idea how to get the girls and seal the deal. They may know how to start up a conversation, but it usually lasts as long as your visit to the toilet.

Now that you are armed with this simple truth, you should know how to approach a girl in a club with much more buzzing confidence.

Follow me on part two to discover 3 fail-proof methods and the best ways on how to get the girls in the clubs effortlessly.