Amongst the most effective way to get girls is being skin-deep confident with expressing your sexuality. Most guys consider this a dilemma, as it can come across as creepy, or simply contradictory to the purpose of being “mysterious” and challenging. This will only be the case if you can’t express your sexuality naturally.
The thing is, you should never be afraid of getting “caught” red-handed expressing your sexual desires.
You want to check a woman out? Go ahead, just don’t look like a salivating chronic pervert who hasn’t jacked off for days. There’s a fine difference between “scanning” a woman in a pre-qualifying way, and one with a predator’s unflinching gaze.
Nonetheless, you should never recoil from expressing your sexuality. Do not feel shameful or guilty of this act. Smash down this barrier of fear. It’s part of your life. Embrace it to the fullest.
“If you bury your sexuality, you bury your sexy drive and life.” – Me.
Here are 10 pivotal tips on how you can get comfortable with your own sexuality.
1. First and foremost, you must accept yourself for who you are (as an intellectually advanced ape) and understand that it is coded in your biological nature to be ready-to-fuck. Let a woman know exactly that you love sex. Better yet, give it to her.
2. Stop watching estrogen-inspiring soap operas and chick flicks. Leave them alone as they don’t inspire your inner masculinity, but rather chew away at its bones. Don’t’ be afraid of women! They’re not going to knife your balls and feed it to your neighbors dogs.
3. It should be a daily habit where you should just “Feel fucking good about yourself.” Work hard and accomplish things. Realize your goals, and raise the bar for yourself. A strong ongoing sense of self-accomplishment gives you confidence, which feeds your sexual vibe.
4. Stick to a healthy dietary and exercising regime to keep yourself in shape. Yes, you have to work on your body. Lose the weight if you’ve the extras – fat deposits secrete estrogen. Empty that shit. Get some nice biceps – women always notice them, and may even ask to touch them. The better you feel about yourself, and the more confident you are with your package, the sharper your sexuality seductively stings.
I wrote an in-depth entry on why else you should whip yourself into shape, and how you get accomplish this feat easily. Check it out here: Classic Tip on How To Get Girls
5. Practice eye-contact with yourself. Be brutally honest, how do you feel? Who do you see?. Do you look intimidating? Inviting? Friendly? Respectable? Attractive? Are you pleased with who you see in the mirror? How would you respond if you saw yourself in public? What do you need to improve on? Get on with it.
6. Focus on good body language. This is one of the best way to get girls – when you acquire full mastery of enhancing your body language. Your physical posture and inner thoughts greatly affects your state of sexuality. Some starters are to never slouch or hunch over when you’re walking or talking.
Watch some Hip Hop or R&B music . Look how they interact with the video vixens they have on deck. They’re all secure with expressing their sexuality; they hold nothing back.
More importantly, work from then “inside’ out. What you think will determine how you look. You want a posture of a captain or undefeated champion? then think like one. Or think along the lines of “invincible, untouchable” outer space hero. Do whatever works for you.
7. Don’t be afraid of body contact. Women welcome the thought of being touched, as long as your approach to it is fluid. Do not ever be afraid of invading a woman’s privacy or getting in close proximity. Share your special presence with her.
If a woman offers a hand shake, you can shake your head and tell her “no, I only do heart to hearts. Then pump your chest out and wait for her to reciprocate”. It’s fun, playful, and you demonstrate that you’re not afraid of body contact.
8. Do it like its part of your “way of life” or culture. When you’re talking to a girl, remember to always find opportunities to touch them, and do so comfortably. Keep testing the waters and she how she responds. That’s how you determine where you stand with her. Every girl will respond slightly differently. Some are very physical, some require strong comfort build up first. Different strokes for different folks.
When I meet women in the club and I notice something cool about them (e.g their personality, energy level, clothing), I tell them that they “get a hug for being cool”, then proceed to hugging them. Get used to making physical contact.
9. Be comfortable in being verbally sexual. Step out of your comfort zone and say “risky” or “near offensive” things., but make sure you deliver it in a teasing and non-serious attitude. Don’t be afraid to blurt out things like “Stop turning me on by wearing so little.” Say it with a playfully troubled look. Just dont’ take the crassness overboard – I’m sure you can use your best of judgement.
They key is to slip in sexual innuendos whenever you can playfully. Tie it with humor. This way you’ll never be friend zoned. You may even tell a girl “how it turns you on” when she does something embarrassing, for example, when she accidentally releases gas.
10. Enjoy life. Do the things you love. Pursue your hobby, profession, favorite sport activity. Having a strong passion and letting it shine is very admirable and attractive to women. It is food for your sexual-being. Women will eat up this good vibe and return for more bites – given that your hobbies can be potentially interesting for them.
Whatever it is, you want to do things that will regularly keep your mood and energy level high. Once you’re at ease, or better yet, at a semi-ecstatic state, you’ll be more comfortable with being sexual.
All in all, learn to have a good time. That’s one of the secret way to get girls that will always be in full effect. Be happy. Be sexual. Let go off all the life’s bullshit and stress, and fulfill your primal urges.
Stay tuned for the next entry: Club Game Pt. 3!
