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One of the most timeless ways on how to get more girls, and to “keep” one hooked on to you like gold diggers to Benjamin Franklins, is to actually be a constant challenge to her. To make yourself “less” accessible and harder to get gives you a more valuable appeal.

Picture this hypothetical scenario for a moment.

You’re visiting 2 dealership stores to buy a new Mercedes car with the price tag of $250,000. In dealership A, you can sense that the sales dude desperately needs to commission in on this sale. He’s got a servile and pleasing attitude; he really wants you to like him and buy the car through him. Wost, he won’t get out of your face and stands at your peripheral impatiently for you to make a decision. Every time you stall for time and stare hesitatingly at the price tag, he tries to read your thoughts and lowers the price for you – just so you buy, and he gets to pocket some dough.

In dealership B, the salesperson there seems more relaxed, and speaks in a calm and cool demeanor. He tells you the price tag of $250,000, and confidently states that you’re getting way more than you paid for. He tells you the price is non-negotiable.

So to recap: You’re in the market for a new Mercedes. You visit 2 separate car dealerships. The first sales person comes at you from a “I want something from you” position. Then you visit the second dealership where the sales person appears presents himself elegantly and talks in a controlled manner. He makes you an offer, and whether you accept his offer or not, he’s cool with it. He tells you “This is one unprecedented car. You get what you pay for. It’s up to you to take it or leave it, the decision is all yours. I’m sure you know what’s best for you.”

Now, imagine that you can have both of these cars for free. Who would you take it from? Dealership A or B? I’m sure it’s B. Why? Because the salesman has shaped your perception towards the Mercedes in that dealership to be more valuable, harder to obtain, therefore making it much more rewarding to have.

This is the allure and magic of the challenge factor. This is how average looking guys can get a piece of that landslide advantage over a hot looking stud with no challenge in his game.

The salesman in Dealership A diluted the value of the car by offering the discount. In the dating world, this si equivalent to playing nice, easy to get, and “making yourself available.” What usually ensues is your ass being taken for granted.

The more available you are, the lower in value a woman evaluates you. Challenges sells, gets you pussy, so “Be” it. Become a challenge. Not only will you keep a woman interested and get more girls as you value yourself more, they will also be more willing to fight tooth and nail for your time. Why? because your presence commands market and social value. This is like the general manager of a company vying for a Vice presidential seat.

You’ll also get more girls on autopilot as you project this vibe of novelty and rarity. Women will always want what they can’t have. If they have to “work” to get you, they will attribute you the the likes of luxury. Integrate this fine element into the natural baseline of your character’s core. It has to be woven in the DNA of “you”, not a technique.

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There’s a very simple yet underestimated way on how to be attractive to women – and that’s to get yourself the right dose of oxygen intake. Yes, sometimes, you just have to focus on the foundations of your game.

No matter where you are – even when you’re not on a date with women – be aware of your breathing pattern.

When you are aware of your breathing habits or patterns, you’ll actually recognize your mental and emotional state improve; and when your mental and emotional state is positive, it permeates into the quality of your interactions.

Most people aren’t aware that they’re not breathing incorrectly. The majority breathe too shallow, and are unconsciously depriving themselves of the necessary daily oxygen. Short breaths are also cause you to feel uneasy and stressful.

Wouldn’t it be better to get rid of all that nasty coiled up tension? So let’s begin with some quick and easy methods.

Below are several essential breathing practices you must know on how to be more attractive to women.

1. Focus your attention on every breath you take. Visualize the air entering your nose and refreshing your lungs. Gradually, slow down your pace and take in deeper and more relaxed breaths.

2. Always inhale from your diaphragm. When inhaling, your ribcage should be expanding sideways. It should feel like they’re trying to escape from your body. Your upper chest should also be stretching outwards. You should see your naval get sucked in, and expand when you exhale.

Then, exhale gently. Never be in a rush to exhale. Never.

3. While stretching your arms away from you, interlace your fingers together, and make sure the palms are facing away from you. Now, start to slowly inhale peacefully. Then, bring your outstretched arms upwards above your head. Keep them straight and push upwards towards the sky.

While doing all this, keep on filling up your lungs until you reach full capacity. Afterwards, hold onto your breath for 5-10 seconds and release. This will help you kill all your body tension.

Your body muscles should feel more relaxed. You should feel relived. This is the state you want to be in when talking to women.

Practice the above three steps multiple times until you can do it fluidly and automatically without having to remind yourself. Most people will find it a bit challenging breaking out of old breathing patterns, but with practice and persistence, you will break it.

Lastly, I’d also like to recommend that you should get yourself involved in sports – if not already. Get on a treadmill, play basketball at your local park, find a female jogging partner to run with.

I personally play soccer – as it aids in making you a more competitive person, disciplines you to stay focused more focused, and helps improve your body coordination. This indirectly helps sharpen your body language.

Not to mention, exercising loads your body up with endorphins. It’s fireworks for your brain, fine sculpting for your physique. Your hormones become more balanced, and your testosterone level goes up. You’ll eventually become a more confident and well-rounded person.

The ultimate goal is to keep your body in shape. Get your heart pumping for at least 45 minutes daily, and 4 times a week.

To know how to be more attractive to women really comes down to these kinds of daily commitments. Stop looking for shortcuts.

So there you have it: One of the most effective ways to be more attractive to women is to breathe correctly.

To breathe correctly is to nurture your brain, body, and game.

Shaping up your social value is one of the most surefire ways on how to get girls to like you. Remember high school where the team athletes, artsy musicians, preppy rich kids, or popular dudes were the most desirable? They had this air of cool and positive social value.

Worry not if you had zilch noteworthy buzz back then, as we all age, graduate from college (if you did go), and our social value takes on new constructs and possibilities outside our academic circles.

Your social value is an indicator which other people use to determine whether or not they should get to know you.
When a man exudes an abundance of internal and tangible worth, he has social value. It comes from his presence, character, core personal values and qualities.

It’s how well received he is by people. It’s the “good vibe” that those around him feel in reaction to him.

No, you don’t need to be a Hollywood celebrity or a local big shot. You don’t have to be Warren Buffet rich – although the two former statuses can’t hurt to have.

Your social value can be generated when you focus on improving yourself.

How you manage your attitudinal, mental, and physical behavior during an interaction, and how you coexist in the public sphere will affect your perceived value.

To recap, your social value partly consists of your interpersonal skill and mindset. You have to be outgoing, empathetic, and good with people. You have to like people. Your attitude towards the world and strangers has to be genuinely positive. The more experience you have, the higher your social intuition.

Most people are trapped with this inner struggle hindering them from progressing higher up the social value ladder. If you have a tendency to be shy in public, you can’t expose your worth as you aren’t fully expressing yourself. You must be comfortable with self expression.

Another timeless way to rapidly build your social value, and how to get girls to like you more, is when you give value to your shared reality.

Can you make the most mundane moments positive? Can you lend a helpful hand when unsolicited for? Can you brighten up someone’s day without expecting anything in return?

The experiences that people associate and remember you with, is the value they will have attached to you.

In Part 2, we’ll go into greater depths on how to build your social value internally, from ground up if you must.

Remember, with more social value, women will no longer be evasive and a challenge. Be the one who does the “screening,” instead of seeking for approval, as you possess the social value to fight for.

They will throw themselves at you like moths to warm incandescent light.

Before you go on shoveling up for more dating tips on how to get a girl interested in you further, I’ve got one powerful pointer for you.

Ask yourself this question: How do you see yourself?

This could just be the key question to ironing out the pesky and seemingly irremovable wrinkles to your game. It’s the exact same question I ask myself everyday.

Whenever you wake up to see that person in the mirror, who do you honestly see? Look deeply into that person and reflect.

Do you see a grumpy weathered cynic? Do you seem like a guy who has an invisible titanium wall barring you from others? Do you look like the kind of guy people would give you a once-over look and forget about?

When you move, do you look strikingly confident and intriguing with every muscle that you move? Do you seem like a guy who possesses this fuzzily inviting self-love that breeds comfort and warmth to those you interact with?

When you look at the man behind the mirror, what are the first few words that immediately spring to mind?

What needs to be changed?
What words should be replaced, and with what? Why?

These are some of the most strategically effective questions you should ask yourself if, not limited to when succeeding with women, but also life in general.

Take a moment for yourself and ask these questions. Once you’ve got the answers, you’ll know what gaps need to be filled. Then, commit yourself to taking the necessary actions to escalating your character/personality/skills.

With this easy yet potentially life changing exercise, you’ll pin down exactly the passive method on how to get a girl interested increasingly through time. Women will throw themselves at you. Remember, self-elevation should always be continuous. Never grow complacent.

Write out all your “hot” qualities, pit them against your “not so hot” ones, and you will gain clarity on how you can become more attractive as a man.

What up guys. Today, we’re going to take your game to a whole new level.

In this entry, I’m going to reveal to you how the attitude, outlook and characteristics of a King can help you get more girls.

Here’s a dating secret: Women easily submit to those greater than them. These insights should be woven to the very fabric of you inner game. They sure make a killer foundation in the long run.

Don’t get your heads high up in the clouds now though. You should never be a tyrant, nor someone too stubborn or difficult to deal with.

1. To be a king, you must first have a kingdom. A woman wants a man with a kingdom. Metaphorically speaking, your “kingdom” is your “life”. You must have a “life”. Just as jurisdictions are established inside a kingdom’s reign, there should be a set of beliefs and rules you live in accord to, which should never be compromised.

2. Don’t be afraid to put a woman in their place. This is your kingdom, make them play by your rules, and never tolerate disrespect or rebellion. You are giving that girl an “opportunity” to join your fascinating kingdom. If she acts irritates you, exile. Find another more deserving queen to sit on the throne with you.

A king provides for his people, he leads, and respects himself, and every woman of the state wants to be part of the royal circle. This is how you should run any relationship – you play the pilot, you take the lead.

3. Since you are king, you do not kiss a woman’s ass. You are the chooser.  You do not relinquish your power to others, otherwise they’ll somehow use it against you.  In other words, never be a woman’s subservient bitch, aka don’t ever be pussy-whipped. So, what’s your kingdom like?

4. You should “feel like a king”. When you feel like a king, you will have more control with yourself. You achieve that harmony and concrete confidence. You have a sense of dignity and power. Treat your time with weight. You shape life according to your own will.

People invest in you, and try to give you benefits. Why feel weak and inferior when you can choose to feel great about yourself?
So, stop worrying about any trivial matters in your life.
When you’re trying to attract a girl, stop worrying about “what she may be thinking of you.” Stop worrying about competition also. You are king, no other guys can rival you.
5. A king develops his kingdom. Metaphorically, you should take active interest in personal growth. Shape up your health, well-being, job. Don’t be dependent on other people, let people depend on you. Get your shit together, and people will naturally look up to you.
6. Of course, just like a king, you also have your advisors. Advisors can be your friends, family, professor, or even a stranger. Someone out there will help you make smarter decisions and gain newer perspective. Don’t overlook it. It’s up to you to decide whether their insights are sound.
Listen to what they say, but always make your own decisions. You influence yourself. There should be no limits to education. Never claim to know-it-all. A true king is humble and always willing to learn. Knowledge should be an endless quest.
7. A king possess the voice of authority, and women want a man who commands authority. So, don’t be afraid to hand the ones with their heads in the sky reality checks.
For example, I’ve met girls who are too lazy to walk down a block and demanded to grab a cab. It wasn’t even that far of a walk, so I told her to “be thankful she’s got the legs” to walk, and then I told her that “acting spoiled like a princess isn’t sexy.”
Only a powerful and dominant man will have the courage to do this.  They should respect your decisions, and never disobey you.
Women will only be satisfied or attracted if they have to “work for you.” The challenge factor must constantly be there, or they’ll find it in someone else. Challenge can be translated to greatly “rewarding” and “worth the time” Anything that is easy to get is not appreciated or goes undervalued.
We are genetically programmed to like to struggle a bit before being rewarded, the reward taste better.
Re-read this article again, and this “king mentality.”

Believe me, radiating king-like traits creates an irresistible attraction, which all lies in your power. People around you will start to notice you, respect you, and see more social value. It will contribute to all areas of your life, not just towards getting more girls.

If you can change your mentality, attitude, and behavior it will show automatically through your body language, voice tone, the way you carry yourself, etc.
They will smell your power and dominance and their natural biological drive to mate with a dominant male will kick in.

By the way, I will soon be launching my 3 Minute Tips Video series. This will be broadcasted throughout the web on all major directories like YouTube, Vimeo, Viddler, Howcast, and more.

The first episode will pertain to “What women really want” from a man.

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I want you to play this video clip above, released by all star R&B singer Lloyd featuring B.o.B

Notice a recurring element in the hook? The three words “Lay your head”… that’s a commanding statement.

How’s a commanding statement relevant? Well, women love it when you take command! As discussed plenty of times before, the best way to get girls is to be comfortable with leading.

Leave alone the indecisive and non-confident side in you. Be assertive and lead the way by taking command – that’s what women want from a man. Want to know how to get a girl’s number? Don’t ask, “tell” her to give you her digits, in a non-pushy but casually cool demeanor.

The secret on how to get girls is this: If you can get them to comply to your commands in endless successions, she develops the habit of giving in to you. This is how you crush any barriers to getting a girl to spend time with you and do as you wish.

In the initial phase of courtship, what women is for you to be the street savvy driver while she rides passenger. Take command of the wheel, and give her the ride of her life.

Here’s a quick checklist on the highly sought-after qualities all men should possess when it comes down to how to get girls with your inner game. Now, don’t just skim through this entry and acknowledge the defining 5 P’s; You should memorize, adopt and apply the golden nuggets on what you’re about to discover.

1. Persistence
2. Patience
3. Perseverance
4. Positive mindset
5. Planning

Persistence. Whenever you get rejected, when a girl flakes on you, when you encounter last minute resistance, or when things don’t go accordingly, do not feel as if the world is collapsing.

Be immune to those destructive fleeting doubts of “Oh… I’m just not good enough for her.” Hold yourself together, keep your chin up, chest out.

Persist by moving forward with constant unshakable cool and dignity. Smile, cheerfully and tell yourself “everything’s all good.” Girl problems should never be a problem for a real man.

Of course, assess what you may have done wrong (or what wasn’t working), and correct your faux pauses, don’t take them lightly or overlook them.

Experiment, learn, grow, and game with Herculean persistence. Empowering yourself with more knowledge on how to get girls and gaining more field-experience will help skyrocket your dating success.

Patience. Professional dating instructors and pick up artists all resemble in one way: they have patience. When patience is part of your nature, you destroy the “neediness” in you, thus making you non-outcome dependent.

However, waiting to long to physically escalate is something you should avoid. The secret to how to get more girls is that when you can object to instant gratifications, you entire being will be at ease,

Don’t force or rush the process of attraction. Just be an attractive man. How exactly? Focus on your social worth, net worth, self-development, career. The more reasons why a woman would want to be with you, the more attractive you are as a man.

This is one of the biggest pivotal realizations most men will experience on how to get girls. Everything will unfold more quickly to your favor than expected when you are patient. When you’re patient with results, your speed of success accelerates at quantum levels.

Perseverance. This trait ties closely with being persistent. When you get knocked down, insulted, be glad it happens now and that you can recover. Don’t ever let a woman bruise your ego or self-image. Leonardo Divinci said it best: “Obstacles od not bend you.” Every obstacle can be destroyed through vigor.

In fact, you should never rely on external sources to feed your inner confidence. The principle to success applies also dating: Never quit, never give up. Adversity is opportunity for growth. It’s a numbers game, and not every woman is going to be a good fit for you.

Positive Mindset. A positive emotional, spiritual, and mental state will automatically give you that hard-to-resist energy; also known as charisma. Being able to associate yourself as a source of fun and enriching energy plays a key factor on how to get girls.

All women can feel and sense this immediately, and they always respond positively to it. They want it like a coffee addict needs his fix.

Planning. Before any outings with your date, know like the back of your hand what you’re going to do. Prepare an itinerary full of excitement and fun, but don’t tell her in advance. Just lead her as you go so everything seems spontaneous.

Make the night adventurously rapturous. Carefully consider the convenience of the logistics and how to “make the best” out of the given time available with her.

If you’re visiting the local art gallery or museum together (for intellectual women), take turns pretending you’re an analytical art critic; but do so playfully and half-serious. Planning to go bowling? Compete for points. Winner gets free 20 minute back oil massage.

The biggest dating no no is not knowing what to do and where to go.

Practice the 5 P’s on the daily, and the results will pay dividends. For more ready-to-implement dating tips on how to get girls for men, check out my other entries on here.

What up guys,

I never really thought it was necessary to include an entry in regards to weight loss on my dating tips for men blog; but it seems like a lot of guys out there are facing this self-image predicament. To know how to get more girls, you must first know how to get yourself together.

Many are too self-conscious or insecure with their bodies, yet they can’t muster the courage to do something about it. Well, I hope today’s quick motivational speech will serve as the turning point to how you treat your body.

To begin, thinking about shaping up and staying fit is one thing, doing it and maintaining that habit is another.

I don’t know what your socio-lifestyle is like, but if you have a schedule that revolves around lavish living, culinary indulging, back-to-back party nights, then losing weight may just seem out of the question.

But ask yourself this: Is this the lifestyle worthwhile of not just your sex-life, but your bodies need? Are you happy with the body you see in the mirror?

Your close friends may tell you to ignore your appearance, and tell you that they’re fine with the way you are. Well, those are statements coming from your friend, not your girlfriend.

News flash: What women like is a man with a body, just like you’d ideally want a woman with smoking hot curves and legs. And when on a date, they want to be seen in public with a good-looking male figure, just as you’d want to also.

Surely, you wouldn’t want anyone to start talking about your weight behind your back right?

If your weight is a matter of your concern and it’s been skewing and chewing at your confidence level for quite some time now, why continue living like the old ways?

This is an ageless fact: Shaping up your appearance and your wardrobe will always give you an edge on how to get more girls. You don’t need to pump yourself up like Arnold. Just stay in shape.

The good news is: Your weight is all under your control. Instead of partying up, invest time in the gym, or if you don’t have the time or money, do what I did before, go for daily power-walking sessions when you’re commuting.

Once you get into the habit of this simple work out, your mind will involuntarily look forward to it. You grow into liking any activity which you may initially dread. Why? because humans are creatures of habit. It no longer becomes a chore or bore, but rather an effortless activity which will only benefit you immensely in the long haul.

When you can take care of your body, women will notice. You will be doing yourself a big favor on how to get more girls as you’re demonstrating that you respect yourself – which universally and indefinitely, is what women like.

Starting from today, wake up to every morning reminding yourself: Shape up, or ship out.

Here’s a toast to your dating success!

Andrew

Next time you’re about to head outside, whether it is for groceries, or just going to the mall to pick up some new gear, here’s a new “going out” mentality that will significantly propel your inner game attraction to help you attract women effortlessly.

When going out…

1. Feel incredible. Note: I am not suggesting that you feel superior amongst others. Don’t allow yourself to feel arrogant or over-emotional. What I’m suggesting is that you should never become a prisoner of mood-swings, self-pity, and just being trapped in cycles of dismay.

They biggest key on how to attract women is remain calm, collected, in control, and to be consistent with maintaining all three states. Consistency really is key, as it breeds a more vibrant future for attraction to grow.

In other words, charge your body up with a “constant non-erring wave of positivity and cool”. Let it circulate throughout your entire body, from your head and down to your toe cuticles. Visualize this endlessly, let it fill your mental space.

Have a skip to your step when you walk. Feel euphoric. Think happy thoughts.

Feel like you are at the center of your universe.

Here’s a quick exercise you can run.

2. Replay in your mind all the good things and times you’ve had. Think of your achievements, respect earned, inner battles defeated. Relive those joyous moments; after all, you made it happen. Anything that transports you onto the positivity road is preferred.

Your inner cool is born from your mind. That’s it’s origin, it’s homeland. It is a sensation generated not from what you wear or how you look, it is innate and all under your control. You can decide whether or not you want to feel it.

Whether you are walking, shopping, at work, or going about your solo activities, feel like you’re unstoppable, stellar, sexually comfortable, and that Forbes have estimated that you are worth over one hundred million dollars.

Delight yourself with your own thoughts, and only reinforce thoughts that will keep your inner cool strong.

Internally feel that unwavering cool and self-validated when you are by yourself.

3. But bear in mind: Always balance humbleness into this equation. Do not ever let arrogance or up-tightness wash over you.

To ensure that you don’t veer into the depths of ego-inflation, be conscious and remind yourself that no other individual is any more or less than you.

A closing reminder: when you’re streaming full of positivity and happiness, that’s the highest form of confidence women respect and fall in love for, and that’s how you attract women.

Here’s a toast to your dating success.

Andrew