Shaping up your social value is one of the most surefire ways on how to get girls to like you. Remember high school where the team athletes, artsy musicians, preppy rich kids, or popular dudes were the most desirable? They had this air of cool and positive social value.

Worry not if you had zilch noteworthy buzz back then, as we all age, graduate from college (if you did go), and our social value takes on new constructs and possibilities outside our academic circles.

Your social value is an indicator which other people use to determine whether or not they should get to know you.
When a man exudes an abundance of internal and tangible worth, he has social value. It comes from his presence, character, core personal values and qualities.

It’s how well received he is by people. It’s the “good vibe” that those around him feel in reaction to him.

No, you don’t need to be a Hollywood celebrity or a local big shot. You don’t have to be Warren Buffet rich – although the two former statuses can’t hurt to have.

Your social value can be generated when you focus on improving yourself.

How you manage your attitudinal, mental, and physical behavior during an interaction, and how you coexist in the public sphere will affect your perceived value.

To recap, your social value partly consists of your interpersonal skill and mindset. You have to be outgoing, empathetic, and good with people. You have to like people. Your attitude towards the world and strangers has to be genuinely positive. The more experience you have, the higher your social intuition.

Most people are trapped with this inner struggle hindering them from progressing higher up the social value ladder. If you have a tendency to be shy in public, you can’t expose your worth as you aren’t fully expressing yourself. You must be comfortable with self expression.

Another timeless way to rapidly build your social value, and how to get girls to like you more, is when you give value to your shared reality.

Can you make the most mundane moments positive? Can you lend a helpful hand when unsolicited for? Can you brighten up someone’s day without expecting anything in return?

The experiences that people associate and remember you with, is the value they will have attached to you.

In Part 2, we’ll go into greater depths on how to build your social value internally, from ground up if you must.

Remember, with more social value, women will no longer be evasive and a challenge.Be the one who does the “screening,” instead of seeking for approval, as you possess the social value to fight for.

They will throw themselves at you like moths to warm incandescent light.

Before you go on shoveling up for more dating tips on how to get a girl interested in you further, I’ve got one powerful pointer for you.

Ask yourself this question: How do you see yourself?

This could just be the key question to ironing out the pesky and seemingly irremovable wrinkles to your game. It’s the exact same question I ask myself everyday.

Whenever you wake up to see that person in the mirror, who do you honestly see? Look deeply into that person and reflect.

Do you see a grumpy weathered cynic? Do you seem like a guy who has an invisible titanium wall barring you from others? Do you look like the kind of guy people would give you a once-over look and forget about?

When you move, do you look strikingly confident and intriguing with every muscle that you move? Do you seem like a guy who possesses this fuzzily inviting self-love that breeds comfort and warmth to those you interact with?

When you look at the man behind the mirror, what are the first few words that immediately spring to mind?

What needs to be changed?
What words should be replaced, and with what? Why?

These are some of the most strategically effective questions you should ask yourself if, not limited to when succeeding with women, but also life in general.

Take a moment for yourself and ask these questions. Once you’ve got the answers, you’ll know what gaps need to be filled. Then, commit yourself to taking the necessary actions to escalating your character/personality/skills.

With this easy yet potentially life changing exercise, you’ll pin down exactly the passive method on how to get a girl interested increasingly through time. Women will throw themselves at you. Remember, self-elevation should always be continuous. Never grow complacent.

Write out all your “hot” qualities, pit them against your “not so hot” ones, and you will gain clarity on how you can become more attractive as a man.

So you and her have both boarded the “exclusively dating” docks. Most guys at this stage, face the nagging question: “How can I keep this going?” Some believe that it becomes more difficult than attracting her from the jump. But knowing how to keep a girl interested in you the long haul requires even less work than you can imagine.

Let me dissect the simple science on how to keep a girl interested in the long haul for you with 5 cornerstone tips.

1. Keep doing what always worked! Why break away from your usual routines that yielded success?

Continue taking the lead, setting the boundaries, and being a challenge. Don’t ever “give her the entire you” – otherwise she’ll soon take you for granted. Keep your ambitiousness at an all time high, focus on your career, and also other areas of life that make you happy. See her sparingly if you must, but when you do spend time with her, make it an unforgettable time.

It’s a psychological principle that needs to be obeyed to the T. You want her to keep competing for your attention. Just because she’s officially your girl now, does not mean you soften up and make more sacrifices for her. The attraction cards still need to be played, and the fun dynamic still needs to be oiled up!

2. Brush aside the “worries and concerns” of “how to keep a girl interested”. If you constantly live in fear that she may leave you some day, then your actions will only come across as desperate, which then compels her to dash out the doors even earlier. It’s always better to let her know in the back of her mind, that you will always have options, and that you are not afraid of being single or independent.

3. Women will always require some form of emotional stimuli to keep them interested. Keep her both intellectually and physically engaged! If not, they’ll restlessly find a guy who will keep her free from the chains of boredom. It could be her friend, colleague, whoever. You want to turn average things to exciting. That’s why the dynamics of getting too comfortable with each other doesn’t fare well in the long haul.

4. Great relationships aren’t based on external elements. Romantic kisses in the rain, late night ambles on the beaches are all Hollywood influenced fantasies. Great relationships stem from the high quality of character from both sides. When you’re both happy, you can just lay around at home, watch a movie together, without worrying about having to do anything extravagant to make the time spent together worthwhile.

If you can’t accept the simple mundane activities – then the relationship is doomed for failure. So make sure you girl understands this, and is not deluded into thinking that she will find her own Aladdin one day who’ll take her up for a ride around the world in a Persian flying carpet.

5. Stop taking the “exclusive status” so seriously. Being boyfriend/girlfriend does not mean you have to see each other every day, or give each other a good night call before dozing off. It does not mean you’ll have a higher tolerance to accept her occasional fits or irrational behavior.

Tease he, and don’t spoil her. Maybe only when it’s her birthday. Continue being a colorful character that’s unpredictable. The roller coaster effect needs to be seamlessly woven into the cloth of your relationship. At the same time, be her better half, and roll with her through the thick and thin. Yes, that’s some cliched stuff you need to adhere to. Always have her associate you with “Joie de vive” – the Joy of life!

Well, I gotta pack now guys. Taipei tomorrow. Stay tuned for Part two on how to keep a girl interested in the long term!

Well, well, well, we’ve arrived at Part 3 of “How to get girls in the club”. I really didn’t think it would come this far.

In this entry, I’ll be expounding on 2 correct and winning mindsets you should adopt inside a club, and how to telegraph an attractive vibe that’ll make the ladies soak their panties.

This will help boost the probability of you ending the night with more numbers stored in your phone memory, and more pairs of legs to spread.

Let’s get on with it.

1. Don’t be too self-conscious. This is the greatest barrier to success with women inside the club. It bogs down your ability to approach women – as you’re being too conscious of possibilities like getting rejected.

And, if you don’t approach, you get no results. The girl’s aren’t going to hurl themselves at you unless you’re some local celebrity figure, GQ model looking, or if she’s one of the following: super intoxicated, extremely horny, or desperate.

Most guys think that by approaching a girl on the scene, they will instantly be placed under intense scrutiny.

The truth? The bartender, club owner, or that person to your right doesn’t care about who you’re approaching. They’re too busy trying to enjoy themselves, or just getting flat out drunk.

The only people that may notice what you’re up, are the friends your target came with; but if you were not too conscious of that, it would never have bothered you. So this is when ignorance is bliss – pay no mind to what others think of you inside the club.

If you work your game right with a confident personality and upbeat body language, you’ll go a lot further than you expected.

When you’re too self-conscious, you sweat too much about the trivial matters like “What others are thinking of you.” You’re bottling up so much “worry” that you’re compromising your ability to have fun and live up to the present moment.

2. Don’t take anything too serious. When you take anyone or anything too seriously inside the club, you do way more harm than good to yourself. You’re hurting your chances of what you should’ve came out for: Having a blast.  They should really enforce a club policy where “Taking anything too seriously here is prohibited. Having fun is highly welcomed.”

By being too serious, you will fear the possibility of being rejected from approaching. You will inadvertently be self-conscious. It then makes you more desperate to calculate some method to attract women – and this is when you will seem like you have an agenda, which women detest.

Don’t be serious. She’s out to have a good time, and so should you.

Walk up to 10 girls consecutively and just “Hello” each with a “knowing smile”. Consider it a fun challenge to thicken your skin and gain more experience points. A hello and smile! Nothing more. Have fun.

Don’t be intimidated by how hot the girls all look inside the club. Tell yourself that most of these girls look at least 30% worse outside. These girls all eat, shit, sleep, and have problems.

Once you’ve reached your tenth, you may just come to the revelation that women aren’t so negative after all. For every 10 woman you grab your balls to to say “Hello” to, at least 2-3 will give you a smile. Trust me, someone will take the bite.

Women are out clubbing, not only to hang out with their friends, but hopefully meet a guy who has the guts to “make a move “on her, spike her attraction level, and make her feel like “it’s okay” to get dirty with you.

That’s a pretty decent success ratio. Since the encounter was so brief, they will all be wondering “who you were” after you just confidently walked away.

After you’ve completed your “Hello and Smile” challenge, return to the ones that gave you positive responses with a :

“Hello there again.  You know I  just toured the whole room, and GUESS WHAT? (pause, and she’ll ask you out of curiosity) You seem to be the most interesting one here.  What’s up. How are you doing?”

This always breaks the ice. What  you want to do next is transition into something more personal. How’s she enjoying the night so far? What’s she wearing that you can comment on or tease her with?

Note: Keep the conversation short, emotionally charged, and hyper-playful. No serious conversational topics, or exchange in formalities.  A quick 3-5 minutes of witty fun talk does it.

If you press on for more than 15 minutes with her, she may see you as low value.

End the conversation on a high note. Tell her, “Listen, it was great talking to you. Let’s keep in touch later.” Then, take out your phone, assume she is going to comply and give you her digits, and tell her to “Put down her number.” Don’t ask, just tell her to do it. Make sure you dial her up, to check that her phone rings so you can confirm it’s her number.

Smile, and bounce back to your friends or next target. You can follow up with her later on (to see if she’s going to an after party etc.) after a good 15-20 minutes separation.

3. Telegraph your vibe right. This is one of the most critical aspects on how to get girls successfully, which not only applies inside the club, but anywhere else.

You body language and expression should not have an attitude that conveys “I am here to pick up some chicks.” Control your eagerness to get laid,  because if you’re really desperate, it will permeate into your image and behavior.

A girl will want to sleep with you, if you look like you don’t care whether or not you get some.

When a girls spot you, they will make a snap judgment of whether or not you “look like a guy” she can have a good time with not only in the club, but later “outside the club.”

Women are attracted when they can see you sharing laughs with your friends.

They like it when they see a man with a “I got my shit together” vibe. A man who dresses sharp, smiles genuinely, exchanges high fives with friends. A man that prioritizes “fun” over “pussy”, brings “fun to the table”, and appears totally in control with himself & the situation at hand!

You can demonstrate “potential fun” in her eyes, by actually having fun!

Don’t stand by the bar, holding onto a drink with a secret admirer’s eyes. That shit ain’t sexy. Posting up by the bar waiting for something to happen, can only lead to only one result: another lonely ride back home.

Most guys order a drink after drink to keep that buzz, and next thing they know, the club’s nearing it’s closing hours, the girl(s) they wanted already left, or they’re taken by some other dudes.

The easiest way to telegraph that ‘sexy vibe’, is to move your body. Brush up on other girl’s body.

Sponge up the bass, get in sync with the music, and surf the waves of ultimate high.

Learn how to dance if you can’t. Seriously, enroll in a few dance (hip hop preferably) classes. The 20-30 hours of investment will last you for a lifetime.  Or be cheap and YouTube dance moves and mimic the dancers.

Although women can tell whether a guy can move or not, most of them don’t have high standards! They melt when they see a guy that’s got the basics down. Why? Because most guys can’t dance, so the grading criteria is much more lenient.

Being able to move your body is an instant turn on. It’s no myth my friend: If you can dance, it is analogous to being superb in the sheets also.

Have a good night

Amongst the most effective way to get girls is being skin-deep confident with expressing your sexuality. Most guys consider this a dilemma, as it can come across as creepy, or simply contradictory to the purpose of being “mysterious” and challenging. This will only be the case if you can’t express your sexuality naturally.

The thing is, you should never be afraid of getting “caught” red-handed expressing your sexual desires.

You want to check a woman out? Go ahead, just don’t look like a salivating chronic pervert who hasn’t jacked off for days. There’s a fine difference between “scanning”  a woman in a pre-qualifying way, and one with a predator’s unflinching  gaze.

Nonetheless, you should never recoil from expressing your sexuality. Do not feel shameful or guilty of this act. Smash down this barrier of fear. It’s part of your life. Embrace it to the fullest.

“If you bury your sexuality, you bury your sexy drive and life.” – Me.

Here are 10 pivotal tips on how you can get comfortable with your own sexuality.

1. First and foremost, you must accept yourself for who you are (as an intellectually advanced ape) and understand that it is coded in your biological nature to be ready-to-fuck. Let a woman know exactly that you love sex. Better yet, give it to her.

2. Stop watching estrogen-inspiring soap operas and chick flicks. Leave them alone as they don’t inspire your inner masculinity, but rather chew away at its bones. Don’t’ be afraid of women! They’re not going to knife your balls and feed it to your neighbors dogs.

3. It should be a daily habit where you should just “Feel fucking good about yourself.” Work hard and accomplish things. Realize your goals, and raise the bar for yourself. A strong ongoing sense of self-accomplishment gives you confidence, which feeds your sexual vibe.

4. Stick to a healthy dietary and exercising regime to keep yourself in shape. Yes, you have to work on your body. Lose the weight if you’ve the extras – fat deposits secrete estrogen. Empty that shit. Get some nice biceps – women always notice them, and may even ask to touch them. The better you feel about yourself, and the more confident you are with your package, the sharper your sexuality seductively stings.

I wrote an in-depth entry on why else you should whip yourself into shape, and how you get accomplish this feat easily. Check it out here: Classic Tip on How To Get Girls

5. Practice eye-contact with yourself. Be brutally honest, how do you feel? Who do you see?. Do you look intimidating? Inviting? Friendly? Respectable? Attractive? Are you pleased with who you see in the mirror? How would you respond if you saw yourself in public? What do you need to improve on? Get on with it.

6. Focus on good body language. This is one of the best way to get girls – when you acquire full mastery of enhancing your body language. Your physical posture and inner thoughts greatly affects your state of sexuality. Some starters are to never slouch or hunch over when you’re walking or talking.

Watch some  Hip Hop or R&B music . Look how they interact with the video vixens they have on deck. They’re all secure with expressing their sexuality; they hold nothing back.

More importantly, work from then “inside’ out. What you think will determine how you look. You want a posture of a captain or undefeated champion? then think like one. Or think along the lines of “invincible, untouchable” outer space hero. Do whatever works for you.

7. Don’t be afraid of body contact. Women welcome the thought of being touched, as long as your approach to it is fluid. Do not ever be afraid of invading a woman’s privacy or getting in close proximity. Share your special presence with her.

If a woman offers a hand shake, you can shake your head and tell her “no, I only do heart to hearts. Then pump your chest out and wait for her to reciprocate”. It’s fun, playful, and you demonstrate that you’re not afraid of body contact.

8. Do it like its part of your “way of life” or culture. When you’re talking to a girl, remember to always find opportunities to touch them, and do so comfortably. Keep testing the waters and she how she responds. That’s how you determine where you stand with her. Every girl will respond slightly differently. Some are very physical, some require strong comfort build up first. Different strokes for different folks.

When I meet women in the club and I notice something cool about them (e.g their personality, energy level, clothing), I tell them that they “get a hug for being cool”, then proceed to hugging them. Get used to making physical contact.

9. Be comfortable in being verbally sexual. Step out of your comfort zone and say “risky” or “near offensive” things., but make sure you deliver it in a teasing and non-serious attitude. Don’t be afraid to blurt out things like “Stop turning me on by wearing so little.” Say it with a playfully troubled look. Just dont’ take the crassness overboard – I’m sure you can use your best of judgement.

They key is to slip in sexual innuendos whenever you can playfully. Tie it with humor. This way you’ll never be friend zoned. You may even tell a girl “how it turns you on” when she does something embarrassing, for example, when she accidentally releases gas.

10. Enjoy life. Do the things you love. Pursue your hobby, profession, favorite sport activity. Having a strong passion and letting it shine is very admirable and attractive to women. It is food for your sexual-being. Women will eat up this good vibe and return for more bites – given that your hobbies can be potentially interesting for them.

Whatever it is, you want to do things that will regularly keep your mood and energy level high. Once you’re at ease, or better yet, at a semi-ecstatic state, you’ll be more comfortable with being sexual.

All in all, learn to have a good time. That’s one of the secret way to get girls that will always be in full effect. Be happy. Be sexual. Let go off all the life’s bullshit and stress, and fulfill your primal urges.

Stay tuned for the next entry: Club Game Pt. 3!

What up guys. Today, we’re going to take your game to a whole new level.

In this entry, I’m going to reveal to you how the attitude, outlook and characteristics of a King can help you get more girls.

Here’s a dating secret: Women easily submit to those greater than them. These insights should be woven to the very fabric of you inner game. They sure make a killer foundation in the long run.

Don’t get your heads high up in the clouds now though. You should never be a tyrant, nor someone too stubborn or difficult to deal with.

1. To be a king, you must first have a kingdom. A woman wants a man with a kingdom. Metaphorically speaking, your “kingdom” is your “life”. You must have a “life”. Just as jurisdictions are established inside a kingdom’s reign, there should be a set of beliefs and rules you live in accord to, which should never be compromised.

2. Don’t be afraid to put a woman in their place. This is your kingdom, make them play by your rules, and never tolerate disrespect or rebellion. You are giving that girl an “opportunity” to join your fascinating kingdom. If she acts irritates you, exile. Find another more deserving queen to sit on the throne with you.

A king provides for his people, he leads, and respects himself, and every woman of the state wants to be part of the royal circle. This is how you should run any relationship – you play the pilot, you take the lead.

3. Since you are king, you do not kiss a woman’s ass. You are the chooser.  You do not relinquish your power to others, otherwise they’ll somehow use it against you.  In other words, never be a woman’s subservient bitch, aka don’t ever be pussy-whipped. So, what’s your kingdom like?

4. You should “feel like a king”. When you feel like a king, you will have more control with yourself. You achieve that harmony and concrete confidence. You have a sense of dignity and power. Treat your time with weight. You shape life according to your own will.

People invest in you, and try to give you benefits. Why feel weak and inferior when you can choose to feel great about yourself?
So, stop worrying about any trivial matters in your life.
When you’re trying to attract a girl, stop worrying about “what she may be thinking of you.” Stop worrying about competition also. You are king, no other guys can rival you.
5. A king develops his kingdom. Metaphorically, you should take active interest in personal growth. Shape up your health, well-being, job. Don’t be dependent on other people, let people depend on you. Get your shit together, and people will naturally look up to you.
6. Of course, just like a king, you also have your advisors. Advisors can be your friends, family, professor, or even a stranger. Someone out there will help you make smarter decisions and gain newer perspective. Don’t overlook it. It’s up to you to decide whether their insights are sound.
Listen to what they say, but always make your own decisions. You influence yourself. There should be no limits to education. Never claim to know-it-all. A true king is humble and always willing to learn. Knowledge should be an endless quest.
7. A king possess the voice of authority, and women want a man who commands authority. So, don’t be afraid to hand the ones with their heads in the sky reality checks.
For example, I’ve met girls who are too lazy to walk down a block and demanded to grab a cab. It wasn’t even that far of a walk, so I told her to “be thankful she’s got the legs” to walk, and then I told her that “acting spoiled like a princess isn’t sexy.”
Only a powerful and dominant man will have the courage to do this.  They should respect your decisions, and never disobey you.
Women will only be satisfied or attracted if they have to “work for you.” The challenge factor must constantly be there, or they’ll find it in someone else. Challenge can be translated to greatly “rewarding” and “worth the time” Anything that is easy to get is not appreciated or goes undervalued.
We are genetically programmed to like to struggle a bit before being rewarded, the reward taste better.
Re-read this article again, and this “king mentality.”

Believe me, radiating king-like traits creates an irresistible attraction, which all lies in your power. People around you will start to notice you, respect you, and see more social value. It will contribute to all areas of your life, not just towards getting more girls.

If you can change your mentality, attitude, and behavior it will show automatically through your body language, voice tone, the way you carry yourself, etc.
They will smell your power and dominance and their natural biological drive to mate with a dominant male will kick in.

By the way, I will soon be launching my 3 Minute Tips Video series. This will be broadcasted throughout the web on all major directories like YouTube, Vimeo, Viddler, Howcast, and more.

The first episode will pertain to “What women really want” from a man.

Make sure you come back

I want you to play this video clip above, released by all star R&B singer Lloyd featuring B.o.B

Notice a recurring element in the hook? The three words “Lay your head”… that’s a commanding statement.

How’s a commanding statement relevant? Well, women love it when you take command! As discussed plenty of times before, the best way to get girls is to be comfortable with leading.

Leave alone the indecisive and non-confident side in you. Be assertive and lead the way by taking command – that’s what women want from a man. Want to know how to get a girl’s number? Don’t ask, “tell” her to give you her digits, in a non-pushy but casually cool demeanor.

The secret on how to get girls is this: If you can get them to comply to your commands in endless successions, she develops the habit of giving in to you. This is how you crush any barriers to getting a girl to spend time with you and do as you wish.

In the initial phase of courtship, what women is for you to be the street savvy driver while she rides passenger. Take command of the wheel, and give her the ride of her life.

Here’s a quick checklist on the highly sought-after qualities all men should possess when it comes down to how to get girls with your inner game. Now, don’t just skim through this entry and acknowledge the defining 5 P’s; You should memorize, adopt and apply the golden nuggets on what you’re about to discover.

1. Persistence
2. Patience
3. Perseverance
4. Positive mindset
5. Planning

Persistence. Whenever you get rejected, when a girl flakes on you, when you encounter last minute resistance, or when things don’t go accordingly, do not feel as if the world is collapsing.

Be immune to those destructive fleeting doubts of “Oh… I’m just not good enough for her.” Hold yourself together, keep your chin up, chest out.

Persist by moving forward with constant unshakable cool and dignity. Smile, cheerfully and tell yourself “everything’s all good.” Girl problems should never be a problem for a real man.

Of course, assess what you may have done wrong (or what wasn’t working), and correct your faux pauses, don’t take them lightly or overlook them.

Experiment, learn, grow, and game with Herculean persistence. Empowering yourself with more knowledge on how to get girls and gaining more field-experience will help skyrocket your dating success.

Patience. Professional dating instructors and pick up artists all resemble in one way: they have patience. When patience is part of your nature, you destroy the “neediness” in you, thus making you non-outcome dependent.

However, waiting to long to physically escalate is something you should avoid. The secret to how to get more girls is that when you can object to instant gratifications, you entire being will be at ease,

Don’t force or rush the process of attraction. Just be an attractive man. How exactly? Focus on your social worth, net worth, self-development, career. The more reasons why a woman would want to be with you, the more attractive you are as a man.

This is one of the biggest pivotal realizations most men will experience on how to get girls. Everything will unfold more quickly to your favor than expected when you are patient. When you’re patient with results, your speed of success accelerates at quantum levels.

Perseverance. This trait ties closely with being persistent. When you get knocked down, insulted, be glad it happens now and that you can recover. Don’t ever let a woman bruise your ego or self-image. Leonardo Divinci said it best: “Obstacles od not bend you.” Every obstacle can be destroyed through vigor.

In fact, you should never rely on external sources to feed your inner confidence. The principle to success applies also dating: Never quit, never give up. Adversity is opportunity for growth. It’s a numbers game, and not every woman is going to be a good fit for you.

Positive Mindset. A positive emotional, spiritual, and mental state will automatically give you that hard-to-resist energy; also known as charisma. Being able to associate yourself as a source of fun and enriching energy plays a key factor on how to get girls.

All women can feel and sense this immediately, and they always respond positively to it. They want it like a coffee addict needs his fix.

Planning. Before any outings with your date, know like the back of your hand what you’re going to do. Prepare an itinerary full of excitement and fun, but don’t tell her in advance. Just lead her as you go so everything seems spontaneous.

Make the night adventurously rapturous. Carefully consider the convenience of the logistics and how to “make the best” out of the given time available with her.

If you’re visiting the local art gallery or museum together (for intellectual women), take turns pretending you’re an analytical art critic; but do so playfully and half-serious. Planning to go bowling? Compete for points. Winner gets free 20 minute back oil massage.

The biggest dating no no is not knowing what to do and where to go.

Practice the 5 P’s on the daily, and the results will pay dividends. For more ready-to-implement dating tips on how to get girls for men, check out my other entries on here.

Still unsure about how to talk to girls with unbreakable success and finesse? Then read on, because you’re in for a big treat.

Running a heavily engaging and exciting conversation is easy – the most common problem for most men is their unhealthy tendency to over-think the process. When you over complicate a matter, you struggle as your nerves go haywire and your confidence level sinks. You mind and inner game fails to function at its optimum.

Your first step is to wake up and realize that knowing how to talk to girls is a dead-easy process; you need to liberate yourself from the built-in belief that it is a challenge, and replace this false belief with one that’s invigorating and optimistic like “talking to a girl, is something I was born ready for.”

So let’s get over to 3 easy, quick, yet powerful solutions on how to talk to girls with ease.

1. Don’t think too much about the conversation. Stop planning far too advanced on what topic you should say next. Thinking is the enemy to hosting a natural flow in any conversation. It stifles the vibe, the spontaneity and fun. It’s an energy and chemistry drainer. You should not focus “inside” your head, but focus on her and bringing “fun” into the conversation.

2. Talk to her like you’re talking to your best friend. Think about it, when you talk to those who are close to you, do you get analytical with your thoughts? When you’re just shooting the breeze, does your mind sweat about “what to say next?”

When you’re talking to your best friend, you feel relax. Employ this state. Plus, when you relax, the woman you’re talking to will feel relaxed. Don’t ever let your thoughts be preoccupied with anything stress-related, or anything remotely negative. Emotions are infectious and she will be able to sense it. Women are emotionally empathetic creatures, so they can “feel” what you feel. So in short, feel as you want her to feel.

3. Behave carefree. A conversation will not kill you; neither should you ever allow it to shatter your dignity or ego if things don’t go accordingly. In fact, when you’re out of words, let your positive body language do the talking. An interaction is a matter of energy exchange. If your entire self is radiating with warmth and positivism, she will make effort to talk to you to avoid any silences!

So, don’t burden yourself with concerns about whether or not the conversation will ever go well. Just know it eventually will. If you play any sports, borrow that pre-game feeling where you’ve been training for days on end, and now you’re more than “ready to game”. And don’t forget: Talking to women was something you were born ready for.

There we have it: 3 easy and ready-to-implement dating tips on how to talk to girls, and I know it’ll serve you well for a lifetime.

Make sure you check out my other dating tips for men here. Cheers.

What up guys,

I never really thought it was necessary to include an entry in regards to weight loss on my dating tips for men blog; but it seems like a lot of guys out there are facing this self-image predicament. To know how to get more girls, you must first know how to get yourself together.

Many are too self-conscious or insecure with their bodies, yet they can’t muster the courage to do something about it. Well, I hope today’s quick motivational speech will serve as the turning point to how you treat your body.

To begin, thinking about shaping up and staying fit is one thing, doing it and maintaining that habit is another.

I don’t know what your socio-lifestyle is like, but if you have a schedule that revolves around lavish living, culinary indulging, back-to-back party nights, then losing weight may just seem out of the question.

But ask yourself this: Is this the lifestyle worthwhile of not just your sex-life, but your bodies need? Are you happy with the body you see in the mirror?

Your close friends may tell you to ignore your appearance, and tell you that they’re fine with the way you are. Well, those are statements coming from your friend, not your girlfriend.

News flash: What women like is a man with a body, just like you’d ideally want a woman with smoking hot curves and legs. And when on a date, they want to be seen in public with a good-looking male figure, just as you’d want to also.

Surely, you wouldn’t want anyone to start talking about your weight behind your back right?

If your weight is a matter of your concern and it’s been skewing and chewing at your confidence level for quite some time now, why continue living like the old ways?

This is an ageless fact: Shaping up your appearance and your wardrobe will always give you an edge on how to get more girls. You don’t need to pump yourself up like Arnold. Just stay in shape.

The good news is: Your weight is all under your control. Instead of partying up, invest time in the gym, or if you don’t have the time or money, do what I did before, go for daily power-walking sessions when you’re commuting.

Once you get into the habit of this simple work out, your mind will involuntarily look forward to it. You grow into liking any activity which you may initially dread. Why? because humans are creatures of habit. It no longer becomes a chore or bore, but rather an effortless activity which will only benefit you immensely in the long haul.

When you can take care of your body, women will notice. You will be doing yourself a big favor on how to get more girls as you’re demonstrating that you respect yourself – which universally and indefinitely, is what women like.

Starting from today, wake up to every morning reminding yourself: Shape up, or ship out.

Here’s a toast to your dating success!

Andrew