Well, well, well, we’ve arrived at Part 3 of “How to get girls in the club”. I really didn’t think it would come this far.
In this entry, I’ll be expounding on 2 correct and winning mindsets you should adopt inside a club, and how to telegraph an attractive vibe that’ll make the ladies soak their panties.
This will help boost the probability of you ending the night with more numbers stored in your phone memory, and more pairs of legs to spread.
Let’s get on with it.
1. Don’t be too self-conscious. This is the greatest barrier to success with women inside the club. It bogs down your ability to approach women – as you’re being too conscious of possibilities like getting rejected.
And, if you don’t approach, you get no results. The girl’s aren’t going to hurl themselves at you unless you’re some local celebrity figure, GQ model looking, or if she’s one of the following: super intoxicated, extremely horny, or desperate.
Most guys think that by approaching a girl on the scene, they will instantly be placed under intense scrutiny.
The truth? The bartender, club owner, or that person to your right doesn’t care about who you’re approaching. They’re too busy trying to enjoy themselves, or just getting flat out drunk.
The only people that may notice what you’re up, are the friends your target came with; but if you were not too conscious of that, it would never have bothered you. So this is when ignorance is bliss – pay no mind to what others think of you inside the club.
If you work your game right with a confident personality and upbeat body language, you’ll go a lot further than you expected.
When you’re too self-conscious, you sweat too much about the trivial matters like “What others are thinking of you.” You’re bottling up so much “worry” that you’re compromising your ability to have fun and live up to the present moment.
2. Don’t take anything too serious. When you take anyone or anything too seriously inside the club, you do way more harm than good to yourself. You’re hurting your chances of what you should’ve came out for: Having a blast. They should really enforce a club policy where “Taking anything too seriously here is prohibited. Having fun is highly welcomed.”
By being too serious, you will fear the possibility of being rejected from approaching. You will inadvertently be self-conscious. It then makes you more desperate to calculate some method to attract women – and this is when you will seem like you have an agenda, which women detest.
Don’t be serious. She’s out to have a good time, and so should you.
Walk up to 10 girls consecutively and just “Hello” each with a “knowing smile”. Consider it a fun challenge to thicken your skin and gain more experience points. A hello and smile! Nothing more. Have fun.
Don’t be intimidated by how hot the girls all look inside the club. Tell yourself that most of these girls look at least 30% worse outside. These girls all eat, shit, sleep, and have problems.
Once you’ve reached your tenth, you may just come to the revelation that women aren’t so negative after all. For every 10 woman you grab your balls to to say “Hello” to, at least 2-3 will give you a smile. Trust me, someone will take the bite.
Women are out clubbing, not only to hang out with their friends, but hopefully meet a guy who has the guts to “make a move “on her, spike her attraction level, and make her feel like “it’s okay” to get dirty with you.
That’s a pretty decent success ratio. Since the encounter was so brief, they will all be wondering “who you were” after you just confidently walked away.
After you’ve completed your “Hello and Smile” challenge, return to the ones that gave you positive responses with a :
“Hello there again. You know I just toured the whole room, and GUESS WHAT? (pause, and she’ll ask you out of curiosity) You seem to be the most interesting one here. What’s up. How are you doing?”
This always breaks the ice. What you want to do next is transition into something more personal. How’s she enjoying the night so far? What’s she wearing that you can comment on or tease her with?
Note: Keep the conversation short, emotionally charged, and hyper-playful. No serious conversational topics, or exchange in formalities. A quick 3-5 minutes of witty fun talk does it.
If you press on for more than 15 minutes with her, she may see you as low value.
End the conversation on a high note. Tell her, “Listen, it was great talking to you. Let’s keep in touch later.” Then, take out your phone, assume she is going to comply and give you her digits, and tell her to “Put down her number.” Don’t ask, just tell her to do it. Make sure you dial her up, to check that her phone rings so you can confirm it’s her number.
Smile, and bounce back to your friends or next target. You can follow up with her later on (to see if she’s going to an after party etc.) after a good 15-20 minutes separation.
3. Telegraph your vibe right. This is one of the most critical aspects on how to get girls successfully, which not only applies inside the club, but anywhere else.
You body language and expression should not have an attitude that conveys “I am here to pick up some chicks.” Control your eagerness to get laid, because if you’re really desperate, it will permeate into your image and behavior.
A girl will want to sleep with you, if you look like you don’t care whether or not you get some.
When a girls spot you, they will make a snap judgment of whether or not you “look like a guy” she can have a good time with not only in the club, but later “outside the club.”
Women are attracted when they can see you sharing laughs with your friends.
They like it when they see a man with a “I got my shit together” vibe. A man who dresses sharp, smiles genuinely, exchanges high fives with friends. A man that prioritizes “fun” over “pussy”, brings “fun to the table”, and appears totally in control with himself & the situation at hand!
You can demonstrate “potential fun” in her eyes, by actually having fun!
Don’t stand by the bar, holding onto a drink with a secret admirer’s eyes. That shit ain’t sexy. Posting up by the bar waiting for something to happen, can only lead to only one result: another lonely ride back home.
Most guys order a drink after drink to keep that buzz, and next thing they know, the club’s nearing it’s closing hours, the girl(s) they wanted already left, or they’re taken by some other dudes.
The easiest way to telegraph that ‘sexy vibe’, is to move your body. Brush up on other girl’s body.
Sponge up the bass, get in sync with the music, and surf the waves of ultimate high.
Learn how to dance if you can’t. Seriously, enroll in a few dance (hip hop preferably) classes. The 20-30 hours of investment will last you for a lifetime. Or be cheap and YouTube dance moves and mimic the dancers.
Although women can tell whether a guy can move or not, most of them don’t have high standards! They melt when they see a guy that’s got the basics down. Why? Because most guys can’t dance, so the grading criteria is much more lenient.
Being able to move your body is an instant turn on. It’s no myth my friend: If you can dance, it is analogous to being superb in the sheets also.
Have a good night 
I thought it’d be super handy for my readers if I documented more of my own personal life outings, adventures, experiences.
Well here it is field report: A night out in a coyote bar, where I share with you some golden tips on how talk to girls and how to get a girl interested inside such venue.
Here, you’ll learn how to…
1. Make every coyote girl eye you in way that communicates they “want” you.
2. How to not ever let a woman’s looks destroy your confidence level again.
3. What conversational topics to run with coyote girls to build instant connection.
4. How to leave the venue with your girl’s number.
Before we begin, let me power drill this into your skull: If you ever shy away from Coyote girls – don’t; the have far more reason not to. From my long time observation, most patrons come to a loss with words when stunned by a woman’s beauty, or they become a bartender by buying them drinks.
Whenever you feel like you’re losing grip with your inner confidence, remind yourself: These are all normal girls, in nice bodies. You’re only hurting your chance of success by not manning up .Visualize yourself stripping away their veil of makeup, and ask yourself what more they have to offer to you besides their lips, tits, and ass.
All physically blessed women have their days of bad breath and bad cases of diarrhea. Judge a woman’s value never by her external façade, but her overall core character. I’m not a misogynist, but women aren’t angels. Some may have that angelical look, but no, they aren’t angels.
Women are people, and people are flawed.
Instead, what you want to do is make her qualify and prove her worth to you, before you give her unreasonable high marks. Get her to “show and prove”. That’s how you get more girls. Judging by looks to determine a woman’s worth is superficial, which I know you’re not.
Ok, let’s get started to the meat of the story.
Basically, me and boys decided on the last minute after our weekly Futsal game to down a couple of beers in the coyote bars here in Bangkok the other day. Why coyote bars and not strip clubs? Well, the girls in coyote bars are sexier, intellectual, and to me, they seem to carry higher standards.
Me and my boys casually stroll in.
After seating ourselves with the best view to observe all dancers, and then ordering our drinks, the female “manager/pimp” of the house comes to greet us and kindly suggests that we select a girl to accommodate us.
Now, what usually happens when you request a girl to sit beside you is that they’ll attempt to milk your wallet further, by pleading and guilt-tripping you to buy them a drink. This is for who those haven’t experienced a typical coyote bar here in Bangkok.
Knowing her ulterior motive, I select the manager herself, who was at least in her mid 50’s. She laughs, kindly refuses, and says she’s “too old” for me. I tell her how she still maintains a “young and sexy vibe,” “so I don’t mind.” “I’m sure we can have a mature discussion together”. She chuckles even more with my playful persistence, and I decide to end the talk there by telling her “I’ll pick another girl soon in a few minutes.”
Anyways, why did I talk to the floor manager (lady pimp)? Well, here’s a grand lesson you can take away.
Once you establish rapport or a good relationship with all the upper-hierarchy members in any night club venue, the working girls inside will automatically respect and love you more. They see this as a bold move.
And guess what… fortune and sex favors the bold.
So by going out the way, you instantly raise your perceived value and differentiate yourself immediately. In their minds, when they see their boss or superiors “having a good time” with you, it’s like you’ve won an official seal of approval from her. All that is required is on your part is good humor, steely balls, and sharp social skills. Treat the bosses or superiors like your friend, and that’s the easiest way no how to get a girl interested guaranteed.
10 minutes into the scene, we all decided to choose a girl. I chose the finest-looking one of the pack. The waitress sends her down, and the fun begins.
For those of you stumped on how to talk to girls of coyote status: Don’t ever let the idea of running a conversation pressure you. You’re not striving for world peace, or planning a jail break.
Your sole aim is to “get to know more about her”. Stop worrying about having to seduce her or presenting yourself as an attractive dude.
Just lead the conversation, keep it emotionally engaging, and you’ve got the cat in the bag.
Keep the opener simple, since it’s their job to initiate a conversation themselves. However, if you want to win them over, you most lead and control the dynamic of the conversation. That’s how you get a girl interested in general. Lead, lead, and lead.
More importantly, keep your energy level mid-high since you’re in a loud setting with music blaring. You want her to hear you clearly.
ALL FUN & TEASE
As she walks toward me, I lithely said in a British accent “Hello there.”
She wais , smiles, ensconces beside me. Then she introduces herself and tells me her name is “Mind”. (Yes, Thai people have odd nicknames).
Using her name as bait, I teasingly confront her and say… “So, you’re a highly intellectual being huh?” Since she also had glasses on, I made a remark on how “that explains why you have glasses. You’re playing your part! Lovely.”
She laughs, gives me a light punch, telling me to stop being a “tease” in Thai.
I continue teasing her, “Well that all makes sense. You did a fantastic job.”
I then notice a Chinese character tattooed on her back saying “Yi”, which translates as “Meaning” in Chinese. I ask her why she chose that particular word, out of the thousands of more “nice and meaningful Chinese characters” available.
She tells me “it’s pretty”. I playfully scoff,” is that the only reason? Do you know what it means?”
She says “No. Not at all.”
I congratulate again, telling her “good job.”
At this point, her attraction level is near boiling as I can tell from her positive body language (where she’s inching closer, and breaking into smiles often smiles intermittently). So far, all I’ve been doing is teasing her, instead of behaving like the norm where you’re either complimenting on her looks, trying to stick your penis into their ovaries, or getting them to fondle with your testicles.
I then go back to asking her again if she really didn’t know what her tattoo meant, which she confirms with rueful honesty in her eyes. Then, she begs me to explain.
To tease her further, I jokingly tell her it means “Boredom,” and jokingly tell her “It’s ok, we all make mistakes with our choices.” She gasps and a mild look of shock and embarrassment fills up her blush-pending face. I then rub her back in a circular motion to console her – a perfect opportunity to get physical.
LET’S “GET PERSONAL”
Later, I play my “let’s get personal” cards, where I tell her to explain to me what “inspired her to be a coyote girl.” Remember, it’s all about strengthening the connection if you want them to really be into you. You don’t want the girls to treat you like a customer, but a prospective mate, to mate with. As a bonus, they also stop pestering you about buying them overpriced drinks.
She tells me about how she graduated from an economic major up north in Chiang Mai (Northern City), and made the decision to move to the capital instead to see what life is like here.
I ask her why an Economics graduate would seek for a job field like this, and asked whether because it made “economical sense.” More laughs evoked, and she agrees with me on how it pays so much better, plus, she enjoys dancing.
Next, I ask her how “dancing makers her feel”.
Then I ask her “what her life is like in the daytime.”
As you can see, there are no rocket-science questions here, yet I’m steadily forging a stronger emotional connection by gearing the conversation towards “her.”
The more a woman reveals about herself, the more she’s unknowingly investing herself into you.
Concerned that the “pimp” may catch her not doing her job, she points to the beer bottle and asks if I would buy her a drink. I tell her “Alcohol kills your liver. A dancer shouldn’t drink too much.”
In response, she chatters her teeth, as you would when you’re freezing, which I found amusing.” I tease her further by questioning whether “chattering your teeth like that is an indication of thirst,” and “if that’s what they taught you in your major.”
Right before she returns to her next dance set, I tell her to “give me your number.” Notice how I didn’t ask. It’s far more effective to command, as it exhibits the kind of leadership confidence which women are addicted to.
Now, for your information, it’s actually against the bar’s rule for coyote girls to hand out their numbers to customers when they’re on shift. But, hey, nothing’s impossible, and here’s how you do it.
First, keep it discreet. Tell them to just verbalize their number without writing it down on paper or punching it into your phone. The only work you have to do is memorizing it on the spot.
So, I get her number, and tell her “we’ll talk more later.”
When my girl went back up to the dance platform to perform another 5 minute set, I play the “jealousy card.”
I talk to this other cute coyote girl who my friend chose (who was preoccupied with business-related BBM’ing on his phone). I spotted her rose inked on her naval, and asked why she got it. To no surprise, she provides the same answer “I like it how it looks.”
When a woman ever gives you a plain and boring answer – punish her. So, I ask her with a sincere curious look if she ever considered “tattooing a tree on her entire leg, that way she can look like a “walking garden,” along with some other species of flowers, aloe vera, cactus, and “promised her it’d look very pretty too”, plus, she would be “watering her plants” as long as she showers.
Remember, what you really want to do is just have fun, tease, and get personal. It’s only a matter of time before you get the swing of this formula. It not only lifts up the mood and spirits of those you come in touch with, but also compounds the magnificence of your game.
That’s how you talk to girls, and how you get a girl interested inside coyote bars.
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In part 1, I gave you a timeless insight on the unveiled reality and the common illusions most men face when going out to approach women in the club.
One of the biggest lessons you should’ve picked up is that your competition level is ridiculously lower than you assume. 80% of the guys in the room won’t know how to approach a woman or how to get girls, point blank period. That’s a secret you can use as leverage on how to get the girls in the clubs.
Now in part two, I’m going to share with you three timeless tips on how to get girls in the club. We’re going to focus on now are your behaviors and how you should carry yourself inside the club to maximize your attraction value.
Here are some critical factors you need to run through on your checklist.
1. Build social value. Social value on the surface will serve as a massive leverage. When you are seen with other girls, the girls inside the club will take notice. Get into the habit first of cold approaching a girl, and then rotate onto the next person.
There’s nothing wrong with sarging solo in the club, but be seen with other people. I’d go to a club sometime by myself and make new friends there. Especially if you’re a guy, you can find a wing-man easily if you see another guy out alone in the club.
This is very common, you just have to pay attention. Afterall, every guy is out for the same thing – to get a girl. So team up, help each other out.
2. Hang with the club owners, managers, PR’s, bouncers, bartenders, camera man, or even the cashier.
Get to know the staff the venues that you often frequent. This will give you more social value, which converts to more winning edge. You never know, the club owner may give you drink vouchers, discounts, free shots, VIP treatment; all this adds tremendous value to your social value, and will wow the girl you want to attract. See yourself as the crème de la crème guys of the night.
3. Look and smell good. Yes, outer appearance, or should I say, your presentation are major composites of selling point. Since you’re in a club, women will generally use their eyes to judge you on first impression. They’ll notice your physicality: Your body language, facial features, and what you’re wearing. The way you wear your clothes will either win or subtract you points. If you look overweight, then shape up. No excuses.
Once you’re within close proximity, she will involuntarily smell you, if you smell good that is. So invest in some quality cologne, don’t boot leg them. Hit the mall, grab a cool bottle of Aqua Di Gio or Ralph Lauren Black. Not to mention, when you’re shopping at the cologne section, you’ll get a chance to strike up conversations and flirt with the sales lady.
Not to go off topic, you want something that will last throughout the night, but make sure to not give yourself too heavy of a sprinkle. And guys, when you’re in the club, do a breath and sweat check. Escort yourself to the nearest restroom and dry up. Women detest men with liquid oozing out their pores. It’s disturbing, repulsive, uninviting. In fact, it will scare them panties-less. Would you approach a girl if she was sweating all over? I hope not.
Remember guys, when you’re out in the club, maintain a strong positive, vibrant, upbeat energy. Look like you’re having fun. Those are the traits on how to get a woman hooked onto you. A guy that knows how to have a good time – that’s what they want, since most of them will usually wind up bored listening to the same music and hanging out with the same people. Don’t just have the same intentions like other guys who are only out to pick up girls. Don’t just crash the party, be the life of the party.
Make sure you check out Part 3 on how to get the girls in the clubs, where you’ll know how to amplify your attraction meter exponentially higher.
It’s no surprise that most modern guys still find it a tricky mission when it comes down to how to get girls in the club. They wonder how you can talk to a girl in such a noisy voice-drowning environment, and how to not resort to the “Can I buy you a drink” approach – since it never really works and immediately identifies you as a supplicant type.
Because most can’t dance also, they really have nothing at their immediate disposal to really attract a woman with. Most guys just lack the foundational guiding principles to push them forward with the right dose of energy, flair, and confidence.
There are actually multiple killer-methods you can employ on how to approach a girl in the club, but that’ll come in part 2.
To approach women in the club with a higher hit rate of success, there is one under-discussed truth you must first be well aware of.
Firstly, know that your competition level is bound to be very low. Why? Well, most guys are readily intimidated by the mere thought of approaching the hottest women in the club. I’m sure you’ve caught a lot of guys acting like flies on the wall, holding on to their drinks, and staring at the girls. This is straight up creepy and definitely not sexy for the ladies.
Just like you, most guys have already assumed that the finest-picks are either already taken, have a boyfriend, or will give you a hostile response by rejecting you with their verbal swordsmanship.
They already have this deeply entrenched preconditioned belief that most women just aren’t that friendly or approachable. Such preconception is highly disruptive and destructive to the process on how to get girls in general, so make sure you abandon this belief right now.
You’ve probably experienced the same exact thought-process, which is actually a false reality you’re creating as an excuse to not approach women due to your insecurity, shyness, or fear of being turned down like a bad resume. You fear that your ego may be shattered, so nothing is accomplished.
Well, what does all this translate to? Barely any guys are approaching! You really have less competition than you may think. This gives you more advantage as women will be a lot more accepting of the guys who have the confidence and guts to step to the plate.
If you already have a copy of my 20 Dating Secrets guide, you should know by now that all women in the club want guys to hit on them! Less than 10% of the sociable girls who go out at night are there solely for the booze, music, and dancing. Even when they’re having a girl’s night out, they all anticipate on “getting lucky” too, as long as the right guy comes by.
Plus, most of the guys have no idea how to get the girls and seal the deal. They may know how to start up a conversation, but it usually lasts as long as your visit to the toilet.
Now that you are armed with this simple truth, you should know how to approach a girl in a club with much more buzzing confidence.
Follow me on part two to discover 3 fail-proof methods and the best ways on how to get the girls in the clubs effortlessly.
Here’s another new music video with great references on how you can talk dirty with a girl. Yes, Luda and Trey knows that they’re talking about.
Don’t just take this up for it’s entertainment value, get familiar with the style and attitude in their language. There’s a very good reason why they’ve culled a larger fan base of females than males.
Here are 3 quick tips on how to talk dirty with you girl to bursting the thermometer during your next bedroom encounter.
1. Don’t just get physically wild, let her imagination run wild too. Hang her in a constant suspense on what “you’ll be doing to her next.” Be vivid with the details, and get more explicit as you escalate into more intimate positions.
2. Avoid the routine. During any initial phase of courtship, always have a “new program” for the night — this is a surefire way to keep her “coming back for more later.”
Instead of just sticking to the bed, get out of bed, grab her by the hand and tell her you want to “tour around the house”, with “you inside her.” Go rack up your mileage points.
Spontaneity, creativity, and unpredictability is gold. A little planning and thought will go along way and easily distinguish your class from her exes.
3. Take the lead, dominate. You are the “director” of the night. Even if you’re not her boss, don’t be afraid to order her around, now’s the opportune time and context.
When you’re both in the bedroom and hungry for action, women will usually shift and become transfixed in an “obligatory” state. They want you to take charge. That’s why the cliched role play of “Doctor and Nurse” is still commonly practiced.
Most women want to be ravished and dominated. That translates as “hot sex” to them.
Have fun boys – try not break the condom.
