Here’s one of my favorite ways on how to approach girls with. A great conversation starter that will never do you wrong

Check out the “Spotlight Effect.”

It becomes fairly difficult at times to decode the non-verbal cues aired by a woman. This often applies to those who have zero battery-life in communication skills. If you fall into this category, don’t despair.

I will now reveal to you several universal signals will help clear any confusion to whether a woman will be well-receiving of your approach or not.

Here are 5 tell-tale signs and advices you’ll need before approaching a woman.

1. Get yourself together. Man up. Step up to her, and use an opinion-opener or situational opener.

The Opinion opener – Hey, I just bought this shirt, from a valued woman’s perspective, what do you think?

The Situational opener (if you’re in mini-concert) – “So which artists are you here to support tonight?”

If she fails to respond or face you, that’s a clear indication that she’s not welcoming any approaches. Don’t push things further by sticking your face into hers and greeting yourself obnoxiously.That would be invading her privacy.

Just shrug it off and leave. There are plenty more fishes out there. Don’t waste your time on women who have their heads high up in the clouds.

2. Observing & Assuming Her Mood
Use your senses and observe your target. Does she look preoccupied? Is she on the phone? Does she look at ease and relaxed?

Depending on her mood, you might want to consider the fashion in which you approach her. If she is busy writing or reading, go up to her and apologize for interrupting; be confident about it. Don’t give a shaky apology.

Tell her…

“Hey, I know I’m interrupting, but I’d feel bad if I didn’t come and say Hi. I thought you’d be someone fun to get to know.”

That line alone, always works beautifully. It can send chills down her spine. Remember, never appear nervous, or it’ll make her nervous also. Emotions are contagious.

3. Check out her level of eye contact.
It’s human nature. When you’re in the proximity of anyone, or within her 5 feet perimeter, you are bound to exchange eye contact at least once. If you see that she’s making a conscious effort not to look your way, then she must be really reserved and less open to being approached.

4. Check Her Reaction Level
After you’ve said Hi to her, does her eye sparkle? Does she seem enthusiastic to have met you? Judge by her comments to see how receptive she is. IF she keeps her sentences short, she’s either not interested or in a piss-poor mood.

However, if you get more than a sentence out of her, then the game’s on!

5. Test Her With Conversational Openers
Before approaching her, study your surrounding. Is there anything interesting?

Let’s say she’s chilling alone at Starbucks with her Macbook opened.

A great conversational starter is to discuss about her Macbook. Ask open ended questions always! That’s the trick to get them talking.

It’s always best to pick an object that she already has interests in. The Macbook is obviously one, or you can ask how where she bought her “fabulous dress or shirt”, since you know a friend that would look great in them.

It’s also excellent to ask, “What’s the story behind that?” about some article on her person. For instance, you might say, “Excuse me, I couldn’t help noticing your unusual necklace. I can’t recall ever seeing one like that before. If you wouldn’t mind me asking, what’s the story behind that?”

These are great ways to open conversations with any woman, and will help you see how receptive she is.

Don’t jump to conclusions until you REALLY approach.

You should never make any hasty conclusions that she is not interested. The only way you’ll really find out is by approaching her. Make the move. Don’t guess.

Next time you spot an opportunity, go for it. There’s no harm in finding out whether she’s interested or not. You’re making a gain by KNOWING.

Remember the indisputable fact I mentioned in my 20 Dating Secrets Special Report, ALL women love to be hit on.

An often untold secret on how to approach girls is knowing that they all want to be approached.

So do yourself and her a favor and fulfill that need.

To your dating success,

Andrew Wang (Allurre)

Creator of Sync Dating and Instant Addiction Formula

Ask yourself and be honest with the answer.

How often do you eyeball a chick you’re interested — or on a more extreme note — is infatuated on the spot by? This is a common lonely and creepy behavior which I call “Wallflowering.”

Why? Because all you’re doing is sitting there in the background, not making a move. You’re merely a decorative immobile objective, so you might as well be a wallflower. What a woman want in a man is one that is bold, initiative, and takes charge.

Now, here’s why you better break away from this behavior.

1. Women have an acute peripheral vision then men do. Just because they’re not looking directly at you, it doesn’t mean they can’t spot you with the corner of their eyes.

2. With your greasy eyeballs ogling her, there’s no way she’ll want to turn to face you. This is a way to safeguard herself from the wimps who dare not approach. However, some women will make the effort just to stare your ass down.

3. My dating tips for shy guys are… try to destroy this anti-social and undesirable behavior. The second you place your sight on a woman, take action.

Lesson of the day: Stop Wall flowering.

Sadly, this ongoing problem persists as you read this. Men running low on courage to march up to the woman they’re attracted to, and not knowing how to snag her digits.

What usually happens is, the guy freezes the moment his eyes bear witness to his target’s racetrack curves. His hormones go on overdrive, and he silently squeals in excitement.

Fast forward 10 seconds. The girl is gone, out of sight, and he hopes that their fate will cross sometime in the near future. That mentally I believe, is not how to approach girls with.

If this happens to you countless times, my only comment is… “You messed up before — don’t let it happen again.”

I’m going give you guys a powerful solution for this common predicament, but first, let’s tackle the root of the problem.

You see, most guys tend to succumb to hesitation or are frightened to present themselves due to the following common reasons:

1. Insufficient Value. They think they have nothing special or valuable to offer to the girl.

2. Fear of rejection. Which explains why they will not step up to the plate and forever be chained to the bench.

Little did they know, these are all self-inflicted hurdles. Whenever these feelings shoot through your veins, you are actually creating a reality that doesn’t even exist.

Most guys who are afraid to approach women also like to over think the process; and the more they plan, the more unlikely they’ll make a move.

They’re trapped in the act of “merely thinking,” or drowning themselves in a state of paralysis analysis.

So really, before falling for these dysfunctional thoughts, why not approach the girl to find out what REALLY happens?

Here’s how a confident and smooth guy thinks inside his head before approaching women.

1. He knows for one, that he is valuable. Only he is to judge who he is, not the girl.

2. He welcomes rejections. After all, it’s all part of dating. The outcome cannot always be decked in your favor.

3. “Nothing bad can really happen if I hit on the girl. What’s the worse thing that can happen? If she refuses to talk to me, there’s plenty of fishes out there who I know will.”

4.“There’s no way I can let a girl like that get away without experiencing the super-bliss of having someone like me in her life.”

5. “She’d never forgive me if she found out I didn’t give her that chance.”

A man who doesn’t believe himself always believes in something else, in which they shouldn’t.

For example, they believe that a woman’s opinion is more valuable and verifiable than their own.

They think woman have the higher authority, and only they can decide whether or not a potential date can work.

This creates a feeling of intimidation which withdraws men from approaching.

Now, let me ask you guys…

What do you really think of when you meet a woman you want to talk to?

And… here are the three words you should live by before your next approach.

Nike said it best. Just do it.

Give yourself a 5 second rule before the wimp inside you wakes up to hold you back. That’s the best motivator if you want to know how to approach girls quick and get better at it.

Act on the instant.

However, be prepared with what you’re going to say to her also.

Simply prepare several creative openers which may lead to a stimulative interaction.

Things like, “Hey, I’m looking for a woman’s opinion on something. My friend is trying to meet his next girlfriend. Where do you think he should go to meet quality women?” always help to break the ice.

Don’t give the wuss in you the opportunity to talk you out of  approaching women and sabotaging your success with them.

On top of that… harbor these thoughts next time you go on a hunt…

“She’s not going to reject you. She’s not going to outwardly insult you either.”

Never again, place your validation in a woman’s hands. She isn’t even qualified to do that. The only one that has the authority to judge who you are is yourself.

And gentlemen, that’s how to approach girls like the pros do.

You.