About: How to get more girls, but building your social value on demand (Part 2).
I know, I know. It’s been a while since I last posted after crossing over to 2012! We’re already halfway into the month, and I swear it feels like I was partying til 8 am after the new year’s countdown last night. But I digress.
What I’m going to share with you today, is a timeless tip that should help enhance your personal social value on demand, when you’re in public.
Talk to the girl! Yes, when you’re seen talking to a girl, it projects immediate value instantly. If you know how to talk to women, you must be social at the very least. Not only that, you must be someone that’s friendly, non threatening, non repulsive and interesting to some degree. Yes, that’s how the other girls will register you in their minds.
This makes them feel more secure when you approach them later. Since you’ve already been spotted talking to another girl, your prospect will assume that it’s okay to talk to you.
In fact, when you’re in a setting where you’re amongst the few rare dudes who are “seen” chatting up with the ladies, it instantly amplifies your worth to the by-standing ladies.
So go on, grab your balls, and go talk to the girl you want. Nothing else matters nor will any rewarding scenarios (getting a number, kiss close, or getting laid) take place if you don’t make the initial move to open up a conversation.
Ignore all the social pressure you may be feeling at that time. Tell yourself, it doesn’t exist. Or, an alternative is to accept the social pressure or nervousness, but tell yourself that this state will only last for a minute.
One of my secret inner game mind trick on how to approach a girl is to assume that attraction is there already. Imagine a tangible energy between the two of your bodies, charging higher in frequency as you both inch closer. Visualize and feel the spark of the electric current.
Seriously. Simply by approaching a girl in public indirectly communicates that you must have a high social value as you have dare to talk to strangers.
You don’t want to kick yourself the morning after for not ever talking to the girl you’re interested in.
One additional point I’d like to include is this: Do not try to impress the girl you’re talking to, nor should you try to make yourself look impressive in front of those around you. Instead, you should be the one that needs to be impressed.
After a good few minutes getting to know each other, enforce the power of absence. I usually talk to a girl 10-20 minutes tops before excusing myself to rejoin my friends. Too much talk and exposure of yourself on the first visit will diminish your value when you return.
Withdraw yourself a bit earlier, and she’ll want more of you when you’ve demonstrated high value and strong connection with her during your first approach.
Need more assistance on how to talk to girls? Check out the Verbal Playboy Blueprint.
There’s a very simple yet underestimated way on how to be attractive to women – and that’s to get yourself the right dose of oxygen intake. Yes, sometimes, you just have to focus on the foundations of your game.
No matter where you are – even when you’re not on a date with women – be aware of your breathing pattern.
When you are aware of your breathing habits or patterns, you’ll actually recognize your mental and emotional state improve; and when your mental and emotional state is positive, it permeates into the quality of your interactions.
Most people aren’t aware that they’re not breathing incorrectly. The majority breathe too shallow, and are unconsciously depriving themselves of the necessary daily oxygen. Short breaths are also cause you to feel uneasy and stressful.
Wouldn’t it be better to get rid of all that nasty coiled up tension? So let’s begin with some quick and easy methods.
Below are several essential breathing practices you must know on how to be more attractive to women.
1. Focus your attention on every breath you take. Visualize the air entering your nose and refreshing your lungs. Gradually, slow down your pace and take in deeper and more relaxed breaths.
2. Always inhale from your diaphragm. When inhaling, your ribcage should be expanding sideways. It should feel like they’re trying to escape from your body. Your upper chest should also be stretching outwards. You should see your naval get sucked in, and expand when you exhale.
Then, exhale gently. Never be in a rush to exhale. Never.
3. While stretching your arms away from you, interlace your fingers together, and make sure the palms are facing away from you. Now, start to slowly inhale peacefully. Then, bring your outstretched arms upwards above your head. Keep them straight and push upwards towards the sky.
While doing all this, keep on filling up your lungs until you reach full capacity. Afterwards, hold onto your breath for 5-10 seconds and release. This will help you kill all your body tension.
Your body muscles should feel more relaxed. You should feel relived. This is the state you want to be in when talking to women.
Practice the above three steps multiple times until you can do it fluidly and automatically without having to remind yourself. Most people will find it a bit challenging breaking out of old breathing patterns, but with practice and persistence, you will break it.
Lastly, I’d also like to recommend that you should get yourself involved in sports – if not already. Get on a treadmill, play basketball at your local park, find a female jogging partner to run with.
I personally play soccer – as it aids in making you a more competitive person, disciplines you to stay focused more focused, and helps improve your body coordination. This indirectly helps sharpen your body language.
Not to mention, exercising loads your body up with endorphins. It’s fireworks for your brain, fine sculpting for your physique. Your hormones become more balanced, and your testosterone level goes up. You’ll eventually become a more confident and well-rounded person.
The ultimate goal is to keep your body in shape. Get your heart pumping for at least 45 minutes daily, and 4 times a week.
To know how to be more attractive to women really comes down to these kinds of daily commitments. Stop looking for shortcuts.
So there you have it: One of the most effective ways to be more attractive to women is to breathe correctly.
To breathe correctly is to nurture your brain, body, and game.
Shaping up your social value is one of the most surefire ways on how to get girls to like you. Remember high school where the team athletes, artsy musicians, preppy rich kids, or popular dudes were the most desirable? They had this air of cool and positive social value.
Worry not if you had zilch noteworthy buzz back then, as we all age, graduate from college (if you did go), and our social value takes on new constructs and possibilities outside our academic circles.
Your social value is an indicator which other people use to determine whether or not they should get to know you.
When a man exudes an abundance of internal and tangible worth, he has social value. It comes from his presence, character, core personal values and qualities.
It’s how well received he is by people. It’s the “good vibe” that those around him feel in reaction to him.
No, you don’t need to be a Hollywood celebrity or a local big shot. You don’t have to be Warren Buffet rich – although the two former statuses can’t hurt to have.
Your social value can be generated when you focus on improving yourself.
How you manage your attitudinal, mental, and physical behavior during an interaction, and how you coexist in the public sphere will affect your perceived value.
To recap, your social value partly consists of your interpersonal skill and mindset. You have to be outgoing, empathetic, and good with people. You have to like people. Your attitude towards the world and strangers has to be genuinely positive. The more experience you have, the higher your social intuition.
Most people are trapped with this inner struggle hindering them from progressing higher up the social value ladder. If you have a tendency to be shy in public, you can’t expose your worth as you aren’t fully expressing yourself. You must be comfortable with self expression.
Another timeless way to rapidly build your social value, and how to get girls to like you more, is when you give value to your shared reality.
Can you make the most mundane moments positive? Can you lend a helpful hand when unsolicited for? Can you brighten up someone’s day without expecting anything in return?
The experiences that people associate and remember you with, is the value they will have attached to you.
In Part 2, we’ll go into greater depths on how to build your social value internally, from ground up if you must.
Remember, with more social value, women will no longer be evasive and a challenge.Be the one who does the “screening,” instead of seeking for approval, as you possess the social value to fight for.
They will throw themselves at you like moths to warm incandescent light.
Before you go on shoveling up for more dating tips on how to get a girl interested in you further, I’ve got one powerful pointer for you.
Ask yourself this question: How do you see yourself?
This could just be the key question to ironing out the pesky and seemingly irremovable wrinkles to your game. It’s the exact same question I ask myself everyday.
Whenever you wake up to see that person in the mirror, who do you honestly see? Look deeply into that person and reflect.
Do you see a grumpy weathered cynic? Do you seem like a guy who has an invisible titanium wall barring you from others? Do you look like the kind of guy people would give you a once-over look and forget about?
When you move, do you look strikingly confident and intriguing with every muscle that you move? Do you seem like a guy who possesses this fuzzily inviting self-love that breeds comfort and warmth to those you interact with?
When you look at the man behind the mirror, what are the first few words that immediately spring to mind?
What needs to be changed?
What words should be replaced, and with what? Why?
These are some of the most strategically effective questions you should ask yourself if, not limited to when succeeding with women, but also life in general.
Take a moment for yourself and ask these questions. Once you’ve got the answers, you’ll know what gaps need to be filled. Then, commit yourself to taking the necessary actions to escalating your character/personality/skills.
With this easy yet potentially life changing exercise, you’ll pin down exactly the passive method on how to get a girl interested increasingly through time. Women will throw themselves at you. Remember, self-elevation should always be continuous. Never grow complacent.
Write out all your “hot” qualities, pit them against your “not so hot” ones, and you will gain clarity on how you can become more attractive as a man.
So you and her have both boarded the “exclusively dating” docks. Most guys at this stage, face the nagging question: “How can I keep this going?” Some believe that it becomes more difficult than attracting her from the jump. But knowing how to keep a girl interested in you the long haul requires even less work than you can imagine.
Let me dissect the simple science on how to keep a girl interested in the long haul for you with 5 cornerstone tips.
1. Keep doing what always worked! Why break away from your usual routines that yielded success?
Continue taking the lead, setting the boundaries, and being a challenge. Don’t ever “give her the entire you” – otherwise she’ll soon take you for granted. Keep your ambitiousness at an all time high, focus on your career, and also other areas of life that make you happy. See her sparingly if you must, but when you do spend time with her, make it an unforgettable time.
It’s a psychological principle that needs to be obeyed to the T. You want her to keep competing for your attention. Just because she’s officially your girl now, does not mean you soften up and make more sacrifices for her. The attraction cards still need to be played, and the fun dynamic still needs to be oiled up!
2. Brush aside the “worries and concerns” of “how to keep a girl interested”. If you constantly live in fear that she may leave you some day, then your actions will only come across as desperate, which then compels her to dash out the doors even earlier. It’s always better to let her know in the back of her mind, that you will always have options, and that you are not afraid of being single or independent.
3. Women will always require some form of emotional stimuli to keep them interested. Keep her both intellectually and physically engaged! If not, they’ll restlessly find a guy who will keep her free from the chains of boredom. It could be her friend, colleague, whoever. You want to turn average things to exciting. That’s why the dynamics of getting too comfortable with each other doesn’t fare well in the long haul.
4. Great relationships aren’t based on external elements. Romantic kisses in the rain, late night ambles on the beaches are all Hollywood influenced fantasies. Great relationships stem from the high quality of character from both sides. When you’re both happy, you can just lay around at home, watch a movie together, without worrying about having to do anything extravagant to make the time spent together worthwhile.
If you can’t accept the simple mundane activities – then the relationship is doomed for failure. So make sure you girl understands this, and is not deluded into thinking that she will find her own Aladdin one day who’ll take her up for a ride around the world in a Persian flying carpet.
5. Stop taking the “exclusive status” so seriously. Being boyfriend/girlfriend does not mean you have to see each other every day, or give each other a good night call before dozing off. It does not mean you’ll have a higher tolerance to accept her occasional fits or irrational behavior.
Tease he, and don’t spoil her. Maybe only when it’s her birthday. Continue being a colorful character that’s unpredictable. The roller coaster effect needs to be seamlessly woven into the cloth of your relationship. At the same time, be her better half, and roll with her through the thick and thin. Yes, that’s some cliched stuff you need to adhere to. Always have her associate you with “Joie de vive” – the Joy of life!
Well, I gotta pack now guys. Taipei tomorrow. Stay tuned for Part two on how to keep a girl interested in the long term!
Well, well, well, we’ve arrived at Part 3 of “How to get girls in the club”. I really didn’t think it would come this far.
In this entry, I’ll be expounding on 2 correct and winning mindsets you should adopt inside a club, and how to telegraph an attractive vibe that’ll make the ladies soak their panties.
This will help boost the probability of you ending the night with more numbers stored in your phone memory, and more pairs of legs to spread.
Let’s get on with it.
1. Don’t be too self-conscious. This is the greatest barrier to success with women inside the club. It bogs down your ability to approach women – as you’re being too conscious of possibilities like getting rejected.
And, if you don’t approach, you get no results. The girl’s aren’t going to hurl themselves at you unless you’re some local celebrity figure, GQ model looking, or if she’s one of the following: super intoxicated, extremely horny, or desperate.
Most guys think that by approaching a girl on the scene, they will instantly be placed under intense scrutiny.
The truth? The bartender, club owner, or that person to your right doesn’t care about who you’re approaching. They’re too busy trying to enjoy themselves, or just getting flat out drunk.
The only people that may notice what you’re up, are the friends your target came with; but if you were not too conscious of that, it would never have bothered you. So this is when ignorance is bliss – pay no mind to what others think of you inside the club.
If you work your game right with a confident personality and upbeat body language, you’ll go a lot further than you expected.
When you’re too self-conscious, you sweat too much about the trivial matters like “What others are thinking of you.” You’re bottling up so much “worry” that you’re compromising your ability to have fun and live up to the present moment.
2. Don’t take anything too serious. When you take anyone or anything too seriously inside the club, you do way more harm than good to yourself. You’re hurting your chances of what you should’ve came out for: Having a blast. They should really enforce a club policy where “Taking anything too seriously here is prohibited. Having fun is highly welcomed.”
By being too serious, you will fear the possibility of being rejected from approaching. You will inadvertently be self-conscious. It then makes you more desperate to calculate some method to attract women – and this is when you will seem like you have an agenda, which women detest.
Don’t be serious. She’s out to have a good time, and so should you.
Walk up to 10 girls consecutively and just “Hello” each with a “knowing smile”. Consider it a fun challenge to thicken your skin and gain more experience points. A hello and smile! Nothing more. Have fun.
Don’t be intimidated by how hot the girls all look inside the club. Tell yourself that most of these girls look at least 30% worse outside. These girls all eat, shit, sleep, and have problems.
Once you’ve reached your tenth, you may just come to the revelation that women aren’t so negative after all. For every 10 woman you grab your balls to to say “Hello” to, at least 2-3 will give you a smile. Trust me, someone will take the bite.
Women are out clubbing, not only to hang out with their friends, but hopefully meet a guy who has the guts to “make a move “on her, spike her attraction level, and make her feel like “it’s okay” to get dirty with you.
That’s a pretty decent success ratio. Since the encounter was so brief, they will all be wondering “who you were” after you just confidently walked away.
After you’ve completed your “Hello and Smile” challenge, return to the ones that gave you positive responses with a :
“Hello there again. You know I just toured the whole room, and GUESS WHAT? (pause, and she’ll ask you out of curiosity) You seem to be the most interesting one here. What’s up. How are you doing?”
This always breaks the ice. What you want to do next is transition into something more personal. How’s she enjoying the night so far? What’s she wearing that you can comment on or tease her with?
Note: Keep the conversation short, emotionally charged, and hyper-playful. No serious conversational topics, or exchange in formalities. A quick 3-5 minutes of witty fun talk does it.
If you press on for more than 15 minutes with her, she may see you as low value.
End the conversation on a high note. Tell her, “Listen, it was great talking to you. Let’s keep in touch later.” Then, take out your phone, assume she is going to comply and give you her digits, and tell her to “Put down her number.” Don’t ask, just tell her to do it. Make sure you dial her up, to check that her phone rings so you can confirm it’s her number.
Smile, and bounce back to your friends or next target. You can follow up with her later on (to see if she’s going to an after party etc.) after a good 15-20 minutes separation.
3. Telegraph your vibe right. This is one of the most critical aspects on how to get girls successfully, which not only applies inside the club, but anywhere else.
You body language and expression should not have an attitude that conveys “I am here to pick up some chicks.” Control your eagerness to get laid, because if you’re really desperate, it will permeate into your image and behavior.
A girl will want to sleep with you, if you look like you don’t care whether or not you get some.
When a girls spot you, they will make a snap judgment of whether or not you “look like a guy” she can have a good time with not only in the club, but later “outside the club.”
Women are attracted when they can see you sharing laughs with your friends.
They like it when they see a man with a “I got my shit together” vibe. A man who dresses sharp, smiles genuinely, exchanges high fives with friends. A man that prioritizes “fun” over “pussy”, brings “fun to the table”, and appears totally in control with himself & the situation at hand!
You can demonstrate “potential fun” in her eyes, by actually having fun!
Don’t stand by the bar, holding onto a drink with a secret admirer’s eyes. That shit ain’t sexy. Posting up by the bar waiting for something to happen, can only lead to only one result: another lonely ride back home.
Most guys order a drink after drink to keep that buzz, and next thing they know, the club’s nearing it’s closing hours, the girl(s) they wanted already left, or they’re taken by some other dudes.
The easiest way to telegraph that ‘sexy vibe’, is to move your body. Brush up on other girl’s body.
Sponge up the bass, get in sync with the music, and surf the waves of ultimate high.
Learn how to dance if you can’t. Seriously, enroll in a few dance (hip hop preferably) classes. The 20-30 hours of investment will last you for a lifetime. Or be cheap and YouTube dance moves and mimic the dancers.
Although women can tell whether a guy can move or not, most of them don’t have high standards! They melt when they see a guy that’s got the basics down. Why? Because most guys can’t dance, so the grading criteria is much more lenient.
Being able to move your body is an instant turn on. It’s no myth my friend: If you can dance, it is analogous to being superb in the sheets also.
Have a good night 
What up guys. Today, we’re going to take your game to a whole new level.
In this entry, I’m going to reveal to you how the attitude, outlook and characteristics of a King can help you get more girls.
Here’s a dating secret: Women easily submit to those greater than them. These insights should be woven to the very fabric of you inner game. They sure make a killer foundation in the long run.
Don’t get your heads high up in the clouds now though. You should never be a tyrant, nor someone too stubborn or difficult to deal with.
1. To be a king, you must first have a kingdom. A woman wants a man with a kingdom. Metaphorically speaking, your “kingdom” is your “life”. You must have a “life”. Just as jurisdictions are established inside a kingdom’s reign, there should be a set of beliefs and rules you live in accord to, which should never be compromised.
2. Don’t be afraid to put a woman in their place. This is your kingdom, make them play by your rules, and never tolerate disrespect or rebellion. You are giving that girl an “opportunity” to join your fascinating kingdom. If she acts irritates you, exile. Find another more deserving queen to sit on the throne with you.
A king provides for his people, he leads, and respects himself, and every woman of the state wants to be part of the royal circle. This is how you should run any relationship – you play the pilot, you take the lead.
3. Since you are king, you do not kiss a woman’s ass. You are the chooser. You do not relinquish your power to others, otherwise they’ll somehow use it against you. In other words, never be a woman’s subservient bitch, aka don’t ever be pussy-whipped. So, what’s your kingdom like?
4. You should “feel like a king”. When you feel like a king, you will have more control with yourself. You achieve that harmony and concrete confidence. You have a sense of dignity and power. Treat your time with weight. You shape life according to your own will.
People invest in you, and try to give you benefits. Why feel weak and inferior when you can choose to feel great about yourself?
So, stop worrying about any trivial matters in your life.
When you’re trying to attract a girl, stop worrying about “what she may be thinking of you.” Stop worrying about competition also. You are king, no other guys can rival you.
5. A king develops his kingdom. Metaphorically, you should take active interest in personal growth. Shape up your health, well-being, job. Don’t be dependent on other people, let people depend on you. Get your shit together, and people will naturally look up to you.
6. Of course, just like a king, you also have your advisors. Advisors can be your friends, family, professor, or even a stranger. Someone out there will help you make smarter decisions and gain newer perspective. Don’t overlook it. It’s up to you to decide whether their insights are sound.
Listen to what they say, but always make your own decisions. You influence yourself. There should be no limits to education. Never claim to know-it-all. A true king is humble and always willing to learn. Knowledge should be an endless quest.
7. A king possess the voice of authority, and women want a man who commands authority. So, don’t be afraid to hand the ones with their heads in the sky reality checks.
For example, I’ve met girls who are too lazy to walk down a block and demanded to grab a cab. It wasn’t even that far of a walk, so I told her to “be thankful she’s got the legs” to walk, and then I told her that “acting spoiled like a princess isn’t sexy.”
Only a powerful and dominant man will have the courage to do this. They should respect your decisions, and never disobey you.
Women will only be satisfied or attracted if they have to “work for you.” The challenge factor must constantly be there, or they’ll find it in someone else. Challenge can be translated to greatly “rewarding” and “worth the time” Anything that is easy to get is not appreciated or goes undervalued.
We are genetically programmed to like to struggle a bit before being rewarded, the reward taste better.
Re-read this article again, and this “king mentality.”
Believe me, radiating king-like traits creates an irresistible attraction, which all lies in your power. People around you will start to notice you, respect you, and see more social value. It will contribute to all areas of your life, not just towards getting more girls.
If you can change your mentality, attitude, and behavior it will show automatically through your body language, voice tone, the way you carry yourself, etc.
They will smell your power and dominance and their natural biological drive to mate with a dominant male will kick in.
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The first episode will pertain to “What women really want” from a man.
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Before I dash off to my solo soccer workout session, I just wanted to share a quick and timeless dating tip on how to get more girls.
Once word. Exercise.
This sounds like a given, but the thing is, most people fail to follow this simple and classic dating tip. The older most guys get, the less time they have for this shit. I know because I’ve been there.
There are many reasons why most guys don’t hit the gym, or squeeze in hourly slots into their schedule for a quick game of soccer or basketball with their boys.
1. They’re too caught up with college or career. When most of us graduate from high school, everyone’s too busy working, pulling part-times, late-night shifts, and just trying to make more money. For those that work, they’re usually too exhausted to move their asses by the time they get back home.
2. The word “exercise” itself sounds mundane, more so, most people react to it as extra work.
Well, hopefully this entry serves as the turning point where you’ll consider giving “exercise” a big warm welcome to your lifestyle.
Here’s 7 grand reasons why you should exercise.
1. You will lead and live a healthier lifestyle. Once your body is well-shaped and shredded, you’ll get prolonged eye scans and longer attention span from the ladies.
Some may even start approaching you. Here’s the deal: The more sexier body features you have, the more reasons they’ll have to throw themselves wildly at you.
2. You will build and strengthen your immune system to ward off all kinds of diseases, especially obesity. The healthier you are, the more time and energy you’ll have to be around women.
And yes, looking fit and toned beats the living shit out of carrying lumps and rolls. Being overweight or nearing the resemblance of a whale is not something you should be proud of.
3. Exercising easily lets a woman know that you know “how to take care” of yourself, which also translates to them as “I can take care of you.” Didn’t you know some girls get wet when they’re around professional athletes?
4. When you take care of your body, you add more “perceived value” to who you are as an individual. A woman will know that you care about your image and future. This commands mad respect and builds up a feeling of security when they’re around you.
5. With all those waves of endorphin (chemicals that make you feel peaceful and happy) released from a session of intensive exercise, your energy and mood will rev up. You will feel good about yourself. Your foundation of inner confidence goes up.
Once you feel good about yourself, women will feel good around you. That’s another classic tip on how to get more girls. Exercising helps to shift you into that positive mindset by nurturing all your senses with joy.
6. With the cardio and stamina game you’ll be honing, you’ll last even longer without passing the f-ck out when you’re getting freaky with a girl in bed.
Now, if you don’t have a weekly workout routine, start one. The three types of exercising I strongly recommend are: aerobic exercise, strength training, and flexibility training. Think holistic.
Find something of your interest or one that inspires you. For me, it’s basketball, soccer, and just power walking. Oh, sex counts too.
Sign up for hot yoga or gym aerobic classes where you’ll increase your opportunity to meet hordes more hot young women. Yes, it’s in-trend and meditative for women to sign up for these body contorting gym sessions, especially those with day job in the offices.
Make sure you exercise correctly. Give a day in between each workout day so your body can rest, heal, and so your muscles can grow etc. Google a bit about exercising if you need to.
The golden key is to stay committed to your workout regime. And the secret to staying committed is turn whichever form of exercising you’ve chosen into a habit.
Overall, it’s a win-win activity for you, and women will start noticing.
While you’re out scouring for more dating tips on how to get more girls, get out, soak up some vitamin-c powered sunshine, and exercise. The least you can do is to start brisk-walking (I call it power walking).
And like I always say, invest in yourself first so the ladies will invest in you.
Now that’s a classic tip on how you get more girls. Share it with the next generation.
Question from reader:
Dear Andrew,
Thank you for your concern. I need your guidance on how to make a girl feeling shy, get her sexually
tensed and get her attracted just with a few words without breaking the rapport.
Thank you
respect
james
My raw and uncut answers:
1. Make a girl feel shy? Well, this is a question that seldom gets asked, but it’s worth going over. Firstly, there’s a good and bad to making a girl feel shy.
The good: If she’s shy towards you, it’s an indubitable indicator that she sees value and has potential interest you.
Women only harbor this form of emotion in the midst of attraction.
The bad: Shyness on a positive note, equates to nervous excitement. However, there’s still a lingering sense of underlying discomfort somewhere. It’s ok for a woman to be shy, temporarily!
The most ideal case would be to get her to chill, relax, and be totally open with you.
Just imagine, would you be having “fun” if you were “shy” around women? No.
Back to the first question. How can you make a girl feel shy?
Establish and maintain a presence where she sees you as someone of higher authority and social value. You can accomplish this by making a name for yourself, or have something to show that represents you as someone with an attractive lifestyle that she’ll want to be a part of.
In a sense, her mind and heart should register you as the “best thing since sliced bread”.
Women will generally feel that shyness strike when they meet a guy that is cultured, dominates the interaction, and moves with a deep sense of maturity and masculinity.
As long as you’re getting her to “chase” you, instead of you being the chaser, she will always feel that jolt of nervous excitement.
Note: This doesn’t mean you switch up into a superiority complex mode on her, but rather someone who has tons of fun to offer, that you play by your own terms, and that she should respect you if you give her your time.
And… to make a woman feel shy is not only restricted to “having good looks”.
2. Get her sexually tense? There are two easy ways to go about with accomplishing this. Go strategically physical and daringly verbal.
The physical: Apply kino gradually – escalate from safe to more erogenous zones. Arms, back, shoulders, waist, and back wrist and back-hand are some safe stops you can consider. Think in terms of “warming her up” first.
Make accidental touches at first so she nervous system gets used to being touched by you.
Increasing her comfort level towards your physical escalation is all about framing “touching” as normal and desirable.
The verbal: Alternatively, you can talk about sex indirectly. More importantly, make sure the timing is right.
What you want to do is make references to sex in a confident, relaxed, or playful manner. For example, if you see a couple making out in public, shake your head in playful disappointment and say “They just couldn’t wait until they get back home huh?”
Then, you can ask her what she thinks about making out in public, and what the craziest near-sexual conduct she may have experienced with a guy in public with.
Just be prepared when the opportunity presents itself – which it always will. Most guys just don’t pay attention.
You may also switch it up and play the romance card by giving genuine compliments here and there.
If you think she’s an eccentric character, tell her you think she’s “eccentric,” but “you like it.” A personality-based compliment, as opposed to appearance based can trigger good sexual tension.
3. To get a woman attracted instantly without breaking rapport? It all comes down to how you run & manage the flow of conversation.
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An easy and effortless method to create rapport is to get her to talk about herself (women love talking about what’s going on with their lives), and when she does, listen carefully since she’ll cast a blizzard of cues pertaining herself.
The more she’s telling you about herself, the more she’s subconsciously investing and opening herself to you, therefore you’d be strengthening the roots of intimacy between you two!
Furthermore, with these informational cues, you’ll have more relevant & engaging topics to choose from for conversational starters. You may also establish common grounds of interests or life experiences.
Make sure the “cues” you extract and inject back into the conversation with contains emotional positive value.
In other words, talk about things that will make her happy, not things that’ll make her reach for some anti-depressant pills.
Also avoid dwelling on topics that borders boredom. For e.g, talking about anything that she has / had no personal involvement in.
If you talk about what a miracle comeback from your favorite soccer team that played last night, and she has no idea about it, nor does she care about the sport, then you’ll be breeding boredom like watching paint dry.
Hope you enjoyed the read, and keep coming at me with the questions guys. I’d love to help.
Cheers.
Andrew
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