If you were to pick something up from the previous two posts on how to get more girls with social value, it’s about creating the opportunities for yourself, simply by stepping up to the plate and talk, while the other is maintaining a fun vibe around women.

Well, here’s Part 3 to this installment.

1. Keep a Non judgmental attitude. Have you ever noticed that the people who’s got their life together, or are higher up the social ladder, tends to have a more positive attitude towards people? I’m talking about the millionaires, self-made men, celebrities. They’re not out to proof their wort, nor do they have motives on making people feel lesser than they should be. They’ve come to accept people for the way they are without having to judge them.

2. People with high social value all behave in a similar way. They move with a strong sense of relaxation, yet they know when to be bold. This is what keeps them grounded. They set the boundaries on how they should be treated, and they do not panic about how people are to judge them.

When you’re relaxed and bold, you that perfect note that resonates “composure”. Remember: Not speaking up and remaining timid will get you no where. You won’t even attract the shy girls.

3. Strong nonverbal sexual cues. What are the main elements of a strong nonverbal sexual cue? A solid, strong voice. One of the quickest ways to enhance your vocal quality is to “respect your voice”. Most people don’t practice this. Rather, they prefer not to be heard. If you respect like your voice as if it has a net worth of 10 million dollars, you’ll notice yourself speaking louder, with more energy and clarity.

Another important facet is your body language. Again, stay composed. When talking to a girl, consistently maintain that eye contact, and don’t flinch around like you’ve got attention deficit disorder. Keep your posture upright and feel at peace from within. Relax. Keep your body facing hers at all times to genuinely show that you’re paying attention to her. You’d be surprised how most guys are aware of this principle, but fall short during execution. It’s much easier to commit to memory, than to commit it to action.

Breathe calm and let your body and smile exude warm heat. All mature humans of social value and class behave similarly. By adopting the right body language, your mental state also fine tunes itself.

Well, I hope you guys enjoyed this entry. More cutting edge ways on how to attract women in waves coming soon.

One of the most timeless ways on how to get more girls, and to “keep” one hooked on to you like gold diggers to Benjamin Franklins, is to actually be a constant challenge to her. To make yourself “less” accessible and harder to get gives you a more valuable appeal.

Picture this hypothetical scenario for a moment.

You’re visiting 2 dealership stores to buy a new Mercedes car with the price tag of $250,000. In dealership A, you can sense that the sales dude desperately needs to commission in on this sale. He’s got a servile and pleasing attitude; he really wants you to like him and buy the car through him. Wost, he won’t get out of your face and stands at your peripheral impatiently for you to make a decision. Every time you stall for time and stare hesitatingly at the price tag, he tries to read your thoughts and lowers the price for you – just so you buy, and he gets to pocket some dough.

In dealership B, the salesperson there seems more relaxed, and speaks in a calm and cool demeanor. He tells you the price tag of $250,000, and confidently states that you’re getting way more than you paid for. He tells you the price is non-negotiable.

So to recap: You’re in the market for a new Mercedes. You visit 2 separate car dealerships. The first sales person comes at you from a “I want something from you” position. Then you visit the second dealership where the sales person appears presents himself elegantly and talks in a controlled manner. He makes you an offer, and whether you accept his offer or not, he’s cool with it. He tells you “This is one unprecedented car. You get what you pay for. It’s up to you to take it or leave it, the decision is all yours. I’m sure you know what’s best for you.”

Now, imagine that you can have both of these cars for free. Who would you take it from? Dealership A or B? I’m sure it’s B. Why? Because the salesman has shaped your perception towards the Mercedes in that dealership to be more valuable, harder to obtain, therefore making it much more rewarding to have.

This is the allure and magic of the challenge factor. This is how average looking guys can get a piece of that landslide advantage over a hot looking stud with no challenge in his game.

The salesman in Dealership A diluted the value of the car by offering the discount. In the dating world, this si equivalent to playing nice, easy to get, and “making yourself available.” What usually ensues is your ass being taken for granted.

The more available you are, the lower in value a woman evaluates you. Challenges sells, gets you pussy, so “Be” it. Become a challenge. Not only will you keep a woman interested and get more girls as you value yourself more, they will also be more willing to fight tooth and nail for your time. Why? because your presence commands market and social value. This is like the general manager of a company vying for a Vice presidential seat.

You’ll also get more girls on autopilot as you project this vibe of novelty and rarity. Women will always want what they can’t have. If they have to “work” to get you, they will attribute you the the likes of luxury. Integrate this fine element into the natural baseline of your character’s core. It has to be woven in the DNA of “you”, not a technique.

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I know, I know. It’s been a while since I last posted after crossing over to 2012! We’re already halfway into the month, and I swear it feels like I was partying til 8 am after the new year’s countdown last night. But I digress.

What I’m going to share with you today, is a timeless tip that should help enhance your personal social value on demand, when you’re in public.

Talk to the girl! Yes, when you’re seen talking to a girl, it projects immediate value instantly. If you know how to talk to women, you must be social at the very least. Not only that, you must be someone that’s friendly, non threatening, non repulsive and interesting to some degree. Yes, that’s how the other girls will register you in their minds.

This makes them feel more secure when you approach them later. Since you’ve already been spotted talking to another girl, your prospect will assume that it’s okay to talk to you.

In fact, when you’re in a setting where you’re amongst the few rare dudes who are “seen” chatting up with the ladies, it instantly amplifies your worth to the by-standing ladies.

So go on, grab your balls, and go talk to the girl you want. Nothing else matters nor will any rewarding scenarios (getting a number, kiss close, or getting laid) take place if you don’t make the initial move to open up a conversation.

Ignore all the social pressure you may be feeling at that time. Tell yourself, it doesn’t exist. Or, an alternative is to accept the social pressure or nervousness, but tell yourself that this state will only last for a minute.

One of my secret inner game mind trick on how to approach a girl is to assume that attraction is there already. Imagine a tangible energy between the two of your bodies, charging higher in frequency as you both inch closer. Visualize and feel the spark of the electric current.

Seriously. Simply by approaching a girl in public indirectly communicates that you must have a high social value as you have dare to talk to strangers.

You don’t want to kick yourself the morning after for not ever talking to the girl you’re interested in.

One additional point I’d like to include is this: Do not try to impress the girl you’re talking to, nor should you try to make yourself look impressive in front of those around you. Instead, you should be the one that needs to be impressed.

After a good few minutes getting to know each other, enforce the power of absence. I usually talk to a girl 10-20 minutes tops before excusing myself to rejoin my friends. Too much talk and exposure of yourself on the first visit will diminish your value when you return.

Withdraw yourself a bit earlier, and she’ll want more of you when you’ve demonstrated high value and strong connection with her during your first approach.

Need more assistance on how to talk to girls? Check out the Verbal Playboy Blueprint.

Let me dissect the simple science on how to keep a girl interested in the long haul for you with 5 cornerstone tips.

1. Keep doing what always worked! Why break away from your usual routines that yielded success?

Continue taking the lead, setting the boundaries, and being a challenge. Don’t ever “give her the entire you” – otherwise she’ll soon take you for granted. Keep your ambitiousness at an all time high, focus on your career, and also other areas of life that make you happy. See her sparingly if you must, but when you do spend time with her, make it an unforgettable time.

It’s a psychological principle that needs to be obeyed to the T. You want her to keep competing for your attention. Just because she’s officially your girl now, does not mean you soften up and make more sacrifices for her. The attraction cards still need to be played, and the fun dynamic still needs to be oiled up!

2. Brush aside the “worries and concerns” of “how to keep a girl interested”. If you constantly live in fear that she may leave you some day, then your actions will only come across as desperate, which then compels her to dash out the doors even earlier. It’s always better to let her know in the back of her mind, that you will always have options, and that you are not afraid of being single or independent.

3. Women will always require some form of emotional stimuli to keep them interested. Keep her both intellectually and physically engaged! If not, they’ll restlessly find a guy who will keep her free from the chains of boredom. It could be her friend, colleague, whoever. You want to turn average things to exciting. That’s why the dynamics of getting too comfortable with each other doesn’t fare well in the long haul.

4. Great relationships aren’t based on external elements. Romantic kisses in the rain, late night ambles on the beaches are all Hollywood influenced fantasies. Great relationships stem from the high quality of character from both sides. When you’re both happy, you can just lay around at home, watch a movie together, without worrying about having to do anything extravagant to make the time spent together worthwhile.

If you can’t accept the simple mundane activities – then the relationship is doomed for failure. So make sure you girl understands this, and is not deluded into thinking that she will find her own Aladdin one day who’ll take her up for a ride around the world in a Persian flying carpet.

5. Stop taking the “exclusive status” so seriously. Being boyfriend/girlfriend does not mean you have to see each other every day, or give each other a good night call before dozing off. It does not mean you’ll have a higher tolerance to accept her occasional fits or irrational behavior.

Tease he, and don’t spoil her. Maybe only when it’s her birthday. Continue being a colorful character that’s unpredictable. The roller coaster effect needs to be seamlessly woven into the cloth of your relationship. At the same time, be her better half, and roll with her through the thick and thin. Yes, that’s some cliched stuff you need to adhere to. Always have her associate you with “Joie de vive” – the Joy of life!

Well, I gotta pack now guys. Taipei tomorrow. Stay tuned for Part two on how to keep a girl interested in the long term!

What up guys. Today, we’re going to take your game to a whole new level.

In this entry, I’m going to reveal to you how the attitude, outlook and characteristics of a King can help you get more girls.

Here’s a dating secret: Women easily submit to those greater than them. These insights should be woven to the very fabric of you inner game. They sure make a killer foundation in the long run.

Don’t get your heads high up in the clouds now though. You should never be a tyrant, nor someone too stubborn or difficult to deal with.

1. To be a king, you must first have a kingdom. A woman wants a man with a kingdom. Metaphorically speaking, your “kingdom” is your “life”. You must have a “life”. Just as jurisdictions are established inside a kingdom’s reign, there should be a set of beliefs and rules you live in accord to, which should never be compromised.

2. Don’t be afraid to put a woman in their place. This is your kingdom, make them play by your rules, and never tolerate disrespect or rebellion. You are giving that girl an “opportunity” to join your fascinating kingdom. If she acts irritates you, exile. Find another more deserving queen to sit on the throne with you.

A king provides for his people, he leads, and respects himself, and every woman of the state wants to be part of the royal circle. This is how you should run any relationship – you play the pilot, you take the lead.

3. Since you are king, you do not kiss a woman’s ass. You are the chooser.  You do not relinquish your power to others, otherwise they’ll somehow use it against you.  In other words, never be a woman’s subservient bitch, aka don’t ever be pussy-whipped. So, what’s your kingdom like?

4. You should “feel like a king”. When you feel like a king, you will have more control with yourself. You achieve that harmony and concrete confidence. You have a sense of dignity and power. Treat your time with weight. You shape life according to your own will.

People invest in you, and try to give you benefits. Why feel weak and inferior when you can choose to feel great about yourself?
So, stop worrying about any trivial matters in your life.
When you’re trying to attract a girl, stop worrying about “what she may be thinking of you.” Stop worrying about competition also. You are king, no other guys can rival you.
5. A king develops his kingdom. Metaphorically, you should take active interest in personal growth. Shape up your health, well-being, job. Don’t be dependent on other people, let people depend on you. Get your shit together, and people will naturally look up to you.
6. Of course, just like a king, you also have your advisors. Advisors can be your friends, family, professor, or even a stranger. Someone out there will help you make smarter decisions and gain newer perspective. Don’t overlook it. It’s up to you to decide whether their insights are sound.
Listen to what they say, but always make your own decisions. You influence yourself. There should be no limits to education. Never claim to know-it-all. A true king is humble and always willing to learn. Knowledge should be an endless quest.
7. A king possess the voice of authority, and women want a man who commands authority. So, don’t be afraid to hand the ones with their heads in the sky reality checks.
For example, I’ve met girls who are too lazy to walk down a block and demanded to grab a cab. It wasn’t even that far of a walk, so I told her to “be thankful she’s got the legs” to walk, and then I told her that “acting spoiled like a princess isn’t sexy.”
Only a powerful and dominant man will have the courage to do this.  They should respect your decisions, and never disobey you.
Women will only be satisfied or attracted if they have to “work for you.” The challenge factor must constantly be there, or they’ll find it in someone else. Challenge can be translated to greatly “rewarding” and “worth the time” Anything that is easy to get is not appreciated or goes undervalued.
We are genetically programmed to like to struggle a bit before being rewarded, the reward taste better.
Re-read this article again, and this “king mentality.”

Believe me, radiating king-like traits creates an irresistible attraction, which all lies in your power. People around you will start to notice you, respect you, and see more social value. It will contribute to all areas of your life, not just towards getting more girls.

If you can change your mentality, attitude, and behavior it will show automatically through your body language, voice tone, the way you carry yourself, etc.
They will smell your power and dominance and their natural biological drive to mate with a dominant male will kick in.

By the way, I will soon be launching my 3 Minute Tips Video series. This will be broadcasted throughout the web on all major directories like YouTube, Vimeo, Viddler, Howcast, and more.

The first episode will pertain to “What women really want” from a man.

Make sure you come back

Check out the book-trailer for “Sync Dating” guys

And if you haven’t done so already, find out my how you can make a girl fall in love with you simply overnight, by playing this breakthrough dating question game.

Yes, she will start to feel that “falling for you” sensation. This game will skyrocket the emotional intimacy between you and her. The chemistry in the air is indisputable, and will be inevitable.

Yes, it will allow you to bypass right into her mind and heart, to discover what she’s really about. She will unfold any detail about herself to you no holds barred, completely unrestrained.

Yes, you and her will both have incredible fun playing it. It will be an enriching experience once you both get to know each other, and it will bring you one step closer to getting physical.

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Once word. Exercise.

This sounds like a given, but the thing is, most people fail to follow this simple and classic dating tip. The older most guys get, the less time they have for this shit. I know because I’ve been there.

There are many reasons why most guys don’t hit the gym, or squeeze in hourly slots into their schedule for a quick game of soccer or basketball with their boys.

1. They’re too caught up with college or career. When most of us graduate from high school, everyone’s too busy working, pulling part-times, late-night shifts, and just trying to make more money. For those that work, they’re usually too exhausted to move their asses by the time they get back home.

2. The word “exercise” itself sounds mundane, more so, most people react to it as extra work.

Well, hopefully this entry serves as the turning point where you’ll consider giving “exercise” a big warm welcome to your lifestyle.

Here’s 7 grand reasons why you should exercise.

1. You will lead and live a healthier lifestyle. Once your body is well-shaped and shredded, you’ll get prolonged eye scans and longer attention span from the ladies.

Some may even start approaching you. Here’s the deal: The more sexier body features you have, the more reasons they’ll have to throw themselves wildly at you.

2. You will build and strengthen your immune system to ward off all kinds of diseases, especially obesity. The healthier you are, the more time and energy you’ll have to be around women.

And yes, looking fit and toned beats the living shit out of carrying lumps and rolls. Being overweight or nearing the resemblance of a whale is not something you should be proud of.

3. Exercising easily lets a woman know that you know “how to take care” of yourself, which also translates to them as “I can take care of you.” Didn’t you know some girls get wet when they’re around professional athletes?

4. When you take care of your body, you add more “perceived value” to who you are as an individual. A woman will know that you care about your image and future. This commands mad respect and builds up a feeling of security when they’re around you.

5. With all those waves of endorphin (chemicals that make you feel peaceful and happy) released from a session of intensive exercise, your energy and mood will rev up. You will feel good about yourself. Your foundation of inner confidence goes up.

Once you feel good about yourself, women will feel good around you. That’s another classic tip on how to get more girls. Exercising helps to shift you into that positive mindset by nurturing all your senses with joy.

6. With the cardio and stamina game you’ll be honing, you’ll last even longer without passing the f-ck out when you’re getting freaky with a girl in bed.

Now, if you don’t have a weekly workout routine, start one. The three types of exercising I strongly recommend are: aerobic exercise, strength training, and flexibility training. Think holistic.

Find something of your interest or one that inspires you. For me, it’s basketball, soccer, and just power walking. Oh, sex counts too.

Sign up for hot yoga or gym aerobic classes where you’ll increase your opportunity to meet hordes more hot young women. Yes, it’s in-trend and meditative for women to sign up for these body contorting gym sessions, especially those with day job in the offices.

Make sure you exercise correctly. Give a day in between each workout day so your body can rest, heal, and so your muscles can grow etc. Google a bit about exercising if you need to.

The golden key is to stay committed to your workout regime. And the secret to staying committed is turn whichever form of exercising you’ve chosen into a habit.

Overall, it’s a win-win activity for you, and women will start noticing.

While you’re out scouring for more dating tips on how to get more girls, get out, soak up some vitamin-c powered sunshine, and exercise. The least you can do is to start brisk-walking (I call it power walking).

And like I always say, invest in yourself first so the ladies will invest in you.

Now that’s a classic tip on how you get more girls. Share it with the next generation.

Question from reader:

Dear Andrew,

Thank you
respect
james

My raw and uncut answers:

1. Make a girl feel shy? Well, this is a question that seldom gets asked, but it’s worth going over. Firstly, there’s a good and bad to making a girl feel shy.

The good: If she’s shy towards you, it’s an indubitable indicator that she sees value and has potential interest you.
Women only harbor this form of emotion in the midst of attraction.

The bad: Shyness on a positive note, equates to nervous excitement. However, there’s still a lingering sense of underlying discomfort somewhere. It’s ok for a woman to be shy, temporarily!

The most ideal case would be to get her to chill, relax, and be totally open with you.

Just imagine, would you be having “fun” if you were “shy” around women? No.

Back to the first question. How can you make a girl feel shy?

Establish and maintain a presence where she sees you as someone of higher authority and social value. You can accomplish this by making a name for yourself, or have something to show that represents you as someone with an attractive lifestyle that she’ll want to be a part of.

In a sense, her mind and heart should register you as the “best thing since sliced bread”.

Women will generally feel that shyness strike when they meet a guy that is cultured, dominates the interaction, and moves with a deep sense of maturity and masculinity.

As long as you’re getting her to “chase” you, instead of you being the chaser, she will always feel that jolt of nervous excitement.

Note: This doesn’t mean you switch up into a superiority complex mode on her, but rather someone who has tons of fun to offer, that you play by your own terms, and that she should respect you if you give her your time.

And… to make a woman feel shy is not only restricted to “having good looks”.

2. Get her sexually tense? There are two easy ways to go about with accomplishing this. Go strategically physical and daringly verbal.

The physical: Apply kino gradually – escalate from safe to more erogenous zones. Arms, back, shoulders, waist, and back wrist and back-hand are some safe stops you can consider. Think in terms of “warming her up” first.

Make accidental touches at first so she nervous system gets used to being touched by you.
Increasing her comfort level towards your physical escalation is all about framing “touching” as normal and desirable.

The verbal: Alternatively, you can talk about sex indirectly. More importantly, make sure the timing is right.

What you want to do is make references to sex in a confident, relaxed, or playful manner. For example, if you see a couple making out in public, shake your head in playful disappointment and say “They just couldn’t wait until they get back home huh?”

Then, you can ask her what she thinks about making out in public, and what the craziest near-sexual conduct she may have experienced with a guy in public with.

Just be prepared when the opportunity presents itself – which it always will. Most guys just don’t pay attention.

You may also switch it up and play the romance card by giving genuine compliments here and there.

If you think she’s an eccentric character, tell her you think she’s “eccentric,” but “you like it.” A personality-based compliment, as opposed to appearance based can trigger good sexual tension.

3. To get a woman attracted instantly without breaking rapport? It all comes down to how you run & manage the flow of conversation.

When you’re ready to upgrade your verbal game to new dizzying heights (learn how to go from hello on the streets, to hello in bed) check out my Verbal Playboy guide at www.verbalplayboy.com

An easy and effortless method to create rapport is to get her to talk about herself (women love talking about what’s going on with their lives), and when she does, listen carefully since she’ll cast a blizzard of cues pertaining herself.

The more she’s telling you about herself, the more she’s subconsciously investing and opening herself to you, therefore you’d be strengthening the roots of intimacy between you two!

Furthermore, with these informational cues, you’ll have more relevant & engaging topics to choose from for conversational starters. You may also establish common grounds of interests or life experiences.

Make sure the “cues” you extract and inject back into the conversation with contains emotional positive value.

In other words, talk about things that will make her happy, not things that’ll make her reach for some anti-depressant pills.

Also avoid dwelling on topics that borders boredom. For e.g, talking about anything that she has / had no personal involvement in.

If you talk about what a miracle comeback from your favorite soccer team that played last night, and she has no idea about it, nor does she care about the sport, then you’ll be breeding boredom like watching paint dry.

Hope you enjoyed the read, and keep coming at me with the questions guys. I’d love to help.

Cheers.

Andrew

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In part 1, I gave you a timeless insight on the unveiled reality and the common illusions most men face when going out to approach women in the club.

One of the biggest lessons you should’ve picked up is that your competition level is ridiculously lower than you assume. 80% of the guys in the room won’t know how to approach a woman or how to get girls, point blank period. That’s a secret you can use as leverage on how to get the girls in the clubs.

Now in part two, I’m going to share with you three timeless tips on how to get girls in the club. We’re going to focus on now are your behaviors and how you should carry yourself inside the club to maximize your attraction value.

Here are some critical factors you need to run through on your checklist.

1. Build social value. Social value on the surface will serve as a massive leverage. When you are seen with other girls, the girls inside the club will take notice. Get into the habit first of cold approaching a girl, and then rotate onto the next person.

There’s nothing wrong with sarging solo in the club, but be seen with other people. I’d go to a club sometime by myself and make new friends there. Especially if you’re a guy, you can find a wing-man easily if you see another guy out alone in the club.

This is very common, you just have to pay attention. Afterall, every guy is out for the same thing – to get a girl. So team up, help each other out.

2. Hang with the club owners, managers, PR’s, bouncers, bartenders, camera man, or even the cashier.

Get to know the staff the venues that you often frequent. This will give you more social value, which converts to more winning edge. You never know, the club owner may give you drink vouchers, discounts, free shots, VIP treatment; all this adds tremendous value to your social value, and will wow the girl you want to attract. See yourself as the crème de la crème guys of the night.

3. Look and smell good. Yes, outer appearance, or should I say, your presentation are major composites of selling point. Since you’re in a club, women will generally use their eyes to judge you on first impression. They’ll notice your physicality: Your body language, facial features, and what you’re wearing. The way you wear your clothes will either win or subtract you points. If you look overweight, then shape up. No excuses.

Once you’re within close proximity, she will involuntarily smell you, if you smell good that is. So invest in some quality cologne, don’t boot leg them. Hit the mall, grab a cool bottle of Aqua Di Gio or Ralph Lauren Black. Not to mention, when you’re shopping at the cologne section, you’ll get a chance to strike up conversations and flirt with the sales lady.

Not to go off topic, you want something that will last throughout the night, but make sure to not give yourself too heavy of a sprinkle. And guys, when you’re in the club, do a breath and sweat check. Escort yourself to the nearest restroom and dry up. Women detest men with liquid oozing out their pores. It’s disturbing, repulsive, uninviting. In fact, it will scare them panties-less. Would you approach a girl if she was sweating all over? I hope not.

Remember guys, when you’re out in the club, maintain a strong positive, vibrant, upbeat energy. Look like you’re having fun. Those are the traits on how to get a woman hooked onto you. A guy that knows how to have a good time – that’s what they want, since most of them will usually wind up bored listening to the same music and hanging out with the same people. Don’t just have the same intentions like other guys who are only out to pick up girls. Don’t just crash the party, be the life of the party.

Make sure you check out Part 3 on how to get the girls in the clubs, where you’ll know how to amplify your attraction meter exponentially higher.

I want you to play this video clip above, released by all star R&B singer Lloyd featuring B.o.B

Notice a recurring element in the hook? The three words “Lay your head”… that’s a commanding statement.

How’s a commanding statement relevant? Well, women love it when you take command! As discussed plenty of times before, the best way to get girls is to be comfortable with leading.

Leave alone the indecisive and non-confident side in you. Be assertive and lead the way by taking command – that’s what women want from a man. Want to know how to get a girl’s number? Don’t ask, “tell” her to give you her digits, in a non-pushy but casually cool demeanor.

The secret on how to get girls is this: If you can get them to comply to your commands in endless successions, she develops the habit of giving in to you. This is how you crush any barriers to getting a girl to spend time with you and do as you wish.

In the initial phase of courtship, what women is for you to be the street savvy driver while she rides passenger. Take command of the wheel, and give her the ride of her life.